relationships
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Tame Impala’s Currents Is the Soundtrack to My Post-Divorce Life
This week at VSB, we’re running a series called Albums That Changed My Life in which different writers let you in on the music that helped shape and mold them into the people they are now. Today we hear from Dustin Seibert as he tells us how Tame Impala helped him move on from a…
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#RelationshipGoals: 10 Reasons We Love This Is Us Couple Beth and Randall
After the dysfunction of Scandal’s Olivia and Fitz, Issa and Lawrence of Insecure, and just about every reality-TV couple, Beth (Susan Kelechi Watson) and Randall (Sterling K. Brown) on NBC’s This Is Us are just the representation of #BlackLove that viewers need. The Pearsons offer something viewers haven’t seen for some time (if ever): a…
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Is Infidelity Inevitable?
In 2009 a family friend I hadn’t seen since I was a kid came into Chicago for a work conference and took me out for drinks. I wasn’t sure what to expect from the conversation of a woman who was a little under twice my age at the time, but certainly not what I received:…
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Dating While Black and Atheist
There’s some internet rule that goes along the lines of “If you think it, it exists on the internet.” Maybe I’m confusing it with Rule 34 (If you think it, there’s porn of it). But ultimately, I’ve always thought of the internet as a haven for the congregating of niche and segmented voices and a…
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Ask Agatha: Her Friends and Family Hate Me (but I Kinda See Why), Superhero Sex and More
Austin from Pittsburgh asks: Why do people, so often, take an instant dislike to me? I assume it saves time. Kafui from Stone Mountain, Ga., asks: What are the biggest mistakes guys make on dates? They show up 5-feet-8 with a beard and have the audacity not to have a personality. No, seriously, the biggest…
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Ask Agatha: Should I Ignore Her When She Says There’s No Future for Us?
Landon from Seattle asks: After nearly a year and a half of court-ordered no contact between the mother of my child and me, I recently received an email from her stating that she wanted us to communicate better, if only to show our child that we don’t hate each other. In said email, she also…
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Ask Agatha: Is Taking Care of Men Becoming the New Trend?
Brandi from Washington, D.C., asks: Is taking care of men becoming the new trend? I’m not talking about a meal here and a shirt there. I’m talking about broadcasting on your profile, “My husband and I’s apartment … ,” when they’re not legally married, yet giving him full compensation from the random people sleeping in…
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No, Open and Nonmonogamous Relationships Are Not Just for White People
Show of hands: Who here was raised to believe that the only healthy, positive relationships are ones that are monogamous, just one-on-one? Now a show of hands: Who here thinks monogamy is bullshit? Many of us were raised on the idea that we would grow up and find one person whom we would marry and…
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I Have Been Issa. I Have Been Tasha. I Have Had My Fair Share of Lawrences
Insecure regularly reminds me of the lessons I am thankful to have learned in my late 20s and early 30s about relationships, sexuality and owning my womanhood. As the second season gets off to a hard and fast start, I am reminded that I have been Issa, I have been Tasha and I have fucked…