new year’s resolutions
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It Is What It Is: Why 2018 Is the Year I Let Go of ‘What If’
As the ball dropped on New Year’s Eve, I wasn’t kissing a lover—or even a convenient stranger—or ringing in the new year with friends. Instead, I was a jungle gym, short-order cook, food taster, hairdresser, hairdresser’s client, custodian, bathroom attendant, valet, captive audience, tireless entertainer, human recliner, on-demand cuddler, dictionary (and encyclopedia), reluctant disciplinarian and…
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10 New Year’s Resolutions for Introverts
Hey, y’all. I just had a birthday last weekend. And since 39-year-old dads don’t really get gifts anymore other than alcohol and “Hey, I’ll take the kids this afternoon so you can stay home and watch the NBA League Pass in your drawls in peace,” I think of my birthdays now as opportunities to give…
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Body Politics: Transforming Your #TransformationTuesday
#TransformationTuesday, a popular hashtag that encourages people to share their fitness success stories, has collected more than 11 million tags on social platforms such as Instagram and Twitter. Like many, I’ve indulged in my share of posts showcasing my weight-loss journey and muscle gains. But though visuals can be inspiring, they can also haunt like…
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7 Steps to Achieving Our Goals in the New Year: Set an Intention to #SelfLove, Part 1
“I can effect change by transforming the only thing that I ever had control over in the first place, and that is myself.” —Deepak Chopra The year 2018 is here, and if you’re a goal setter, you’ve probably already set your New Year’s resolutions—or have at least thought about them. If you’re anything like I…
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Stop Putting Your Life on Layaway: 5 Things You Should Say Yes to in 2018
Recently, Wifey and I went on a double date with another black lesbian couple I deeply admire. One of them is an über-talented writer, artist and teacher, while the other is a nationally recognized food-justice consultant. After we’d been out of touch for a while, the theme of the night was about catching up and…
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The Race: How I’m Gonna Get in Shape, Fight Gentrification and Celebrate Kwanzaa in 2018
I know what you’re doing this week. The week between Christmas and New Year’s Eve is when you start digging online looking at gyms, low-cost personal trainers and yoga classes—because this year you’re going to get in shape. Seriously, no excuses this time. Mind you, there’s always a risk for black folks trying out New…
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The 6 Worst Diet Quick Fixes You Need to Quit in 2017
Shortcuts are great. When you’re on a road trip, yes. When you’re trying to transform your health, not so much. So if you plan to start 2017 on the healthier side of things, check out what quick fixes you should leave in 2016. As tempting as it may be, beware of jumping on the “I…
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New Year’s Resolutions Y’All Can Actually Keep
For far too many well-intentioned souls, New Year’s resolutions are the life-affirmation equivalent of a deadbeat dad telling his kid he’ll be right back before hightailing it to a place only an expensive private investigator can find. Some of you will indeed join a gym, but only a few of you will make it beyond…
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The Mint App Is An Unreasonably Petty And Penny-Pinching Ho
New Years’ 2016 came around just a little under three months ago. And with it, yours truly had yet again created a set of seemingly attainable goals for the subsequent 365 days in an feeble attempt to become a fully actualized adult. Some of the list has been fairly simple to execute. For example, I’ve…