life
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The Worst Day of My Life and the 20 Years of Trauma That Followed
Twenty years ago, my life changed forever. When I woke up on July 16, 2000, I never could have predicted how different my life would be by midnight. But it was. And I was. And still am, if I’m being honest. As I was scrolling my social media feeds this morning, I noticed that my…
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Stepping on Shit in the Middle of the Night: A Discourse on Parenting Little Children
I’d like to be one of those parents who can say that my kids have never heard me use profanity. But I can’t do that. In fact, if you live within a mile of my house, it is highly likely that if you have kids, they’ve heard me use profanity. Stepping on shit my kids…
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I've Been Family-Free for a Whole Week and I've Discovered How Boring That Can Be
Becoming a parent is a life-changing event. Nothing is the same after your child is born and I mean literally the moment they’re born. Everyday from that moment forward starts to look different and gradually separates it from even the life that existed the day before their birth. My daughter was born in 2009. I…
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‘I Gotta Go. And I Can’t Take Her With Me’: A Mother’s Love on This Is Us
Somehow, I didn’t realize that This Is Us had returned to my Tuesday nights. The last episode I saw was THE episode where Jack [CENSORED]. You know what? “[CENSORED]” means died. Bought the farm. Kicked the bucket. And any other euphemism for dying you can think of. Anyway, on Facebook, I saw somebody mention this past…
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On The Helplessness of Watching Your Parents Get Old
Gospel artist Damon Little has a song out right now called, “I Won’t Be Defeated.” It’s a great song. Do you know who heard that song and was like, “n-word, please?” Time. Time is undefeated. Time ain’t lost a ‘bout yet. In the never-before-mentioned last level of Mike Tyson’s Punch Out, after Tyson whips your…
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VSB + Friends Podcast Ep. 1: Drake Is Not Dadsafe
It’s been a long time, we shouldn’t have left you. So we came back. Damon and I bring you the reboot of our old VSB Podcast, renamed VSB + Friends. Check out our first episode, currently available on SoundCloud (as we wait for the iTunes link to go up) where we talk about pitching to…
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How and Why I Forgave the Father I Never Had
“Kids have a hole in their soul in the shape of their dad. And if a father is unwilling or unable to fill that hole, it can leave a wound that is not easily healed.” – Ronald Warren My life is the result of the bargaining between two consenting adults; only one held up their…
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4 Simple Life Rules For Living A Simple Life
I try to live my life by a few simple and easy tenets: 1. Never forget that niggas gon’ nig. As fucked up as that maybe, it helps to keep expectations in check when dealing with certain types of people. Expecting anything other than a motherfucker to do exactly what they’ve always shown themselves to…