Myth Busting: Men Do Like to Be Asked Out


Essence's "modern-day matchmaker," Paul Carrick Brunson, presents the results of his informal research challenging nine things you thought you know about the opposite sex.

Men Don't Like to Be Asked Out

False. I write about this extensively in my new book, It's Complicated — But It Doesn't Have To Be. Everyone appreciates being admired and having someone show enough interest to ask you out is the ultimate showing of flattery. What people don't want is to be asked out by people they don't like (or don't find attractive) …

Men Think About Sex All Day

False. The statistic I frequently hear is that sexual thoughts cross a man's mind every seven seconds. This couldn't be further from the truth. According to the Kinsey Institute, 54 percent of men think about sex every day, but 43 percent only consider it a few times a month or a few times a week, while four percent make it the whole month before pondering the subject …

Men Aren't As Talkative As Women

False. When researchers have tried to compare the number of words used by both men and women in the same situation, the differences were negligible. If anything, studies show men talk a little bit more …


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