Bye, Lawrence: Why Insecure Just Doesn't Need Him Anymore

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Although Insecure was created by and stars Issa Rae, by the end of season one, it could’ve easily been named Lawrence, the show’s most talked about and meme’d about character.


Here’s a recap of Lawrence’s arc through the show’s first two seasons:

  • He gets cheated on by Issa not because he cheated on her but because he was unemployed, broke, and feeling so sorry for himself that he left Issa unfulfilled.
  • He hooks up with Tasha, the bank teller, in what is still the show’s most-talked about scene in the season one finale.
  • He gets a good job and is no longer broke.
  • He breaks Tasha’s heart because he’s emotionally incompetent.
  • He gets into a threesome with two non-black women he meets in line at a grocery store, and mismanages the threesome because he can’t go multiple rounds like “LaMarcus.”
  • He finally makes peace with Issa but only after bringing his new girl Aparna to their mutual friend’s birthday dinner and calling Issa out her name.
  • He manages to mess up a good thing with Aparna, because again, emotionally incompetent.
  • He unfriends Issa on Facebook and then later requests her to be friends on Facebook

No other character on Insecure has had the benefit of so much development, which is one of the reasons why some folks were surprised and others were outraged when it was announced that Lawrence would be deleted in season three like the phone number of an old ex who won’t stop texting.

As a founding member of #Lawrencehive, I will miss one of the most relatable black male characters I’ve seen on television. But I am also going to stay as loyal to Insecure as I have when Lawrence was on it. I believed he was the show’s most interesting character. But as long as he was around, many of us were going to make a show that was never about him, about him. There was also the reality for the show’s writers that Insecure’s showrunner Prentice Penny talked about in a recent interview with Vulture:

“We were in the writers’ room and were initially talking about, Okay, well what is he doing?... Well, he’s not in her life right now. It was hard to make stories around that.”

It’s easy to Monday-morning-quarterback such a decision and come up with things Lawrence could be doing this season, but finding ways to keep Lawrence would be difficult if the show was going to maintain its standard of authenticity. There’s also a subtle message being conveyed in Lawrence’s absence: When it’s time to move on, move on. For a character who so badly needed to grow up in many ways, not being around this season is perhaps the most mature thing Lawrence could have done in light of the conversation he and Issa had last season.

In real life, there’s breakups and then there’s closure. At the beginning of season two, Issa and Lawrence were broken up, but it took the whole season before we finally saw them get closure. That came in the form of the tearful conversation Issa and Lawrence had in the kitchen they used to share before he packed everything and left her with his Best Buy shirt in the closet. It was a conversation in which the two apologized for all the hurt they caused each other, and made peace with the fact that just because they loved each other didn’t mean they had to stay together, at least not for now.


One thing is for certain: Anything is possible for Issa in Insecure. Lawrence didn’t die, so him coming back into her life isn’t outside of the realm of possibility even if Issa Rae said in that Vulture interview, “You never see the exes again. And it’s okay!” when asked about Lawrence not returning for season three. But the question of when or if Lawrence is coming back isn’t one that fans of the show should be asking themselves.

Jozen Cummings is a senior manager at Bleacher Report. He is the founder and creator of the blog His work has been featured at, Deadspin, and many other publications.



I know with social media, no one ever loses touch, but I don’t see my exes. My first high school boyfriend and I stayed real friends through about our mid-20s (it helped that we went to different high schools) and then kind of lost touch, although I did go to the viewing last year when I heard his father (who was a really kind man) died. He’s married with two young kids and lives states away, and we’re not really friends anymore but not for any dramatic reason; it’s just life. I’m only friends with a couple of people from that time in my life.

I also firmly believe that cutting off contact altogether is the only way to get past a breakup (where possible; obviously if you have kids together you have to talk). Even if you end up friends, you have to take that break to get used to being without them.

The show made it pretty clear that Issa’s friends were HER friends, not THEIR friends, even though they liked Lawrence, and I’d say the same is true for his friends. (Except for Amanda Seales’ character and her husband, because Lawrence appeared to be friends with the husband.) It makes sense that the show wouldn’t include him anymore. I prefer Lawrence to Daniel but Daniel is where she’s at right now, so ...