“like the once willfully oblivious and purportedly now enlightened Chance the Rapper” I was just talking about this exact thing....his Manager that spoke in the interview, the guy that was interviewed “incognito”...they should all be held responsible. There are far too many people coming out NOW to say how deplorable…

You have to do what you have to do to survive, literally. If an uncomfortable smile gets you out of there without being harmed, that’s a good night.

When I say to tell women to stop fixing plates, I mean to stop perpetuating the line that we always have to come LAST. That we have to  take care of everyone else first before ourselves. It’s ok to put you first and you should, if you’re not ok, how can you make sure anyone else is? Put your mask on first, just like…

What I’m trying to say is WE (as in Black women) need to take a hold of and drive the narrative initially and get men on board to steer it. I’m worried about what happens when we don’t. Call me a control freak if you want but it’s we’re the ones who are suffering, do we want to leave the solution entirely in the hands…

What’s weird to me is that she doesn’t even look pregnant. Like...why would anyone even think she did?

This!!! Can we stop assuming that just because a POC has more than a few dollars and some fame that somehow they’re doing so much that they have to be “taken down”? Can we listen to the story first?  The problem with people is that they’re people and sometimes do bad things. Money and fame doesn’t make you immune from…

A woman I worked with had a similar situation—it turned out she had a massive ovarian cancer, and it made her look very pregnant, and people were asking her left right and centre. If I remember right, the tumour weighed over ten pounds. It was crazy. (Happily, she recovered from the cancer and had her first child…

People don’t already know this?! I thought this was obvious. Don’t be asking people about their bodies. Not simply because you might confuse real babies with food babies, but also because it’s their damn body and that shit is personal.

I once worked with a woman who looked pregnant when she started working. I never mentioned anything because why would a young guy talk to a woman about pregnancy? That's just creepy. But considering we were around the public a lot she was asked how far along she was all the time. Sadly she had a gall bladder problem…

Disagree. That sounds a little too close to “She shouldn’t dress that way if she didn’t want the attention” - which is, of course, pure nonsense.

It’s a shame, I know they’re not from my town but I recognize that exact scene from my 20's! Coming home from somewhere dressed cute cuz you’re young, only a few gas stations open late, you gotta deal with this alone because your friend in the car ain’t a fighter, none of those background dudes will help and even the…

This is a large part of why criminal justice equality matters. Too many of us would rather close ranks for one of our own because of how racist and shitty and unfair the system is than demand justice/respect for the ones they hurt. We would rather give air to conspiracy theories than believe our women and children.…

Wtf is that video??? I’m terrified just watching it. And I absolutely recognize the smiling and laughing response. I have done it many times, and hate that even today, at almost 44 years old, I am so conditioned to not anger them, not make a fuss, be pleasing enough in the hopes that they won’t escalate, that it would…

DIsmantling Systemic Misogynoir

that song has always given me the creeps and im always called a deborah downer when i change it.

as she defended this nonsense by talking about being a teenager going to concerts and trying to get back stage and she knew what would happen but she was young and hormonal and up for it.

We always want the bad thing not to be our fault. What’s the first thing people ask when they hear someone has lung cancer? “Did s/he smoke?” And if the answer is yes, you can think, OK, I don’t smoke so lung cancer isn’t in my future - when of course we know that non-smokers can get lung cancer. After Sandy Hook, I…

I think that ties into #8. You hear a lot of “couldn’t be me” when something happens. After the Kavanaugh hearings, I was watching a panel of people on CNN who were asked what they thought and one woman said she 100% believed Christine Blasey Ford. Another woman who did not believe Dr. Ford was like, well, I know if I…

This dude is so problematic I don’t even know where to begin. I have stated here on the Root multiple times before that I unfortunately had the opportunity to witness some of this shit up close and in person since I worked a couple of his tours, so I will hold off on a more lengthy tirade. However, this line sums it…

Wait till he finds out that the guy fucked his mom too.