They say that the definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. It’s that thinking that prompted actress Meagan Good to take a different approach in her relationships with men.
During an interview with CBS to promote The Wait: A Powerful Practice for Finding the Love of Your Life and the Life You Love, a new marital-advice book written with her husband, Good spoke about why she became celibate before her 2012 marriage. She needed to push the reset button on her spiritual and love life.
“It was in that prayer time that I came to the conclusion that I needed to be celibate; I needed to do something different than what I had been doing all the years before,” Good said. “I decided this is what I need to do for me, because I need to heal and I need to focus on myself, and I need to advance myself in every area of my life without the distraction of feeling that I need this man.”
Her husband—film and television producer and preacher DeVon Franklin—said that he had felt conflicted about his lifestyle because it wasn’t consistent with what he was preaching to his followers.
“I didn’t want to live two lives. At the time, I wasn’t practicing celibacy, but I was still talking about it, and I said, ‘You know, I have to be the man that God called me to be,’ and part of that was taking this vow and waiting until marriage,” Franklin explained.
“When I started doing that, it gave me discipline that helped me in every other area of my life,” he said.
Diana Ozemebhoya Eromosele is a staff writer at The Root and the founder and executive producer of Lectures to Beats, a Web series that features video interviews with scarily insightful people. Follow Lectures to Beats on Facebook and Twitter.