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Single-Minded: Why 'BABIES!' Just Don't Do it for Me
The first column I wrote for Single-Minded was about the mixed feelings I have about my unused uterus. Because as central as that lady part is to the marquee of me as a woman, its role in my day-to-day is closer to that of an unpaid extra. “Eventually it might just pack up and leave…
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Single-Minded: On Halle and Her Men
I assume Halle Berry has friends. That there are people not on her payroll that can look into those million-dollar eyes and say, ”Girl, keep it moving” or the converse, ”Girl, keep your man.” So last week when the contract on her relationship with longtime beau/baby daddy Gabriel Aubry ended, I figure the actress had…
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Single-Minded: Plowing Through the Oprah Bio
As it stands, “internationally acclaimed investigative biographer” Kitty Kelley’s latest offering, Oprah: A Biography, reads more like a middle-school book report than a well-researched, heavily reported, and revelation-laden expose. Footnotes would have been greatly appreciated. It reminded me of one I wrote in seventh grade on France. I waited until the 11th hour and, instead…
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Single-Minded: On the Making of a Superhero
The making of a superhero is hard work—there’s the toxic waste-soaked meteor shower when Mercury goes all retrograde and the cost of cape cleaning to consider. Whereas the demotion to super villain seems pretty easy—just add absentee father, too much free time and delusions of grandeur. On Wednesday during Nightline’s celebrity ”face-off” to figure out…
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Single-Minded: Changing My Brand
For a long time I thought brands were for chattel and corporations: an idea that occupies the ephemeral space between the untouchable and fully recognizable. According to “the father of advertising,” David Ogilvy, a brand is “the intangible sum of a product’s attributes: its name, packaging, and price, its history, its reputation, and the way…
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Single-Minded: On Steve Harvey and Advice That We Don't Need
This week, I’m headed to a forum and a face-off to discuss the problem with black women. Problem is that there is no problem. See, the problem with hard-working, hilarious, sometimes haughty, successful, sexy, and yes, single, young black women is that they don’t have a problem at all. Because problems get answered. They go…
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Single-Minded: The 'Lover Not a Fighter' Defense
I have no clue how to fight. Despite having cousins from Compton and a homegirl who knows karate, if something pops off in the club—or in coupledom—I’m all thumbs. The other day someone decided to quote me directly: “You get in a fight, don’t look at me! I mean I’m not saying I won’t break…
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Single-Minded: Growing Up Is Hard To Do
According to the ancient Chinese zodiac, 2010 is the year of the Tiger—a brave, independent and unpredictable sign. And according to an honest friend, “This is the year of the girl breakup”—a budding, inevitable and uncertain time. It can sneak up on you, the girl breakup. After years of skinny jeans, shared experiences and sympathetic…
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Single-Minded: John Edwards, Rielle Hunter and Why Telling All Is Never a Good Idea
For some women, life would be easier with a penis. That way, whenever they wanted to lay unequivocal claim to that which is theirs, all they would have to do is unzip their skinny jeans, pull out the necessary equipment and pee. They wouldn’t have to fuss with Facebook walls, Times Square billboards or GQ…
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Single-Minded: So Now We're Sexual Terrorists?
He yelled, “Helena Andrews has the best p**** in the world!” into the receiver, and the line went dead-leaving the next man on the other end speechless. I didn’t hear about this mobile hit and run until weeks later when the podiatrist I was dating at the time just so happened to mention that he’d…
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