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He Wants to Marry Me, but He Doesn’t Want to Buy an Engagement Ring
My boyfriend wants to get married but doesn’t want to buy an engagement ring. Money isn’t an issue. He has a good job, a home and a luxury car. He wants simple gold bands. I want a diamond ring. He thinks a diamond is a waste of money and the industry is a scam. The…
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Shaming Angela Simmons for Her Pregnancy Shows How Screwed Up We Are When It Comes to Sex
For weeks, bloggers and social media viewers speculated about the pregnancy status of Angela Simmons—fashion designer, reality-TV star and daughter of the rap legend known as Rev. Run. It’s not an uncommon conversation, and happens to almost every celebrity with a newly announced engagement (Simmons announced hers last month) or who appears on a red…
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Columbia University Student Nayla Kidd Is Courageous, Not Selfish or Crazy
Earlier this month, a Columbia University engineering student, Nayla Kidd, 19, was reported missing after she didn’t show up for her final exams at the Ivy League school in New York City. The story made national news. After a citywide (wo)man hunt—and terrifying her friends and family—Kidd was found in Brooklyn, N.Y., where she had…
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She’s in Love With a ‘Nice’ Boyfriend Who Doesn’t Trust Her and Still Has a Wife
Dear Demetria: I’m in love with my boyfriend, but he is always accusing me of cheating. I’m not and never have, but I have thought about it because he doesn’t satisfy me sexually. His penis is small and [the oral sex] isn’t good, either. I knew this before we got together, but I gave him…
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My Boyfriend Wants Me to Pay My Share on a Trip, but Why Should I Chip In When He Makes More Than I Do?
Dear Demetria: My boyfriend of two years wants to go to the Maldives and asked how much I would be able to cover. I told him I’m not paying. He told me how his exes paid half for trips, but I’m like, why chip in if he makes more than double my income? The conversation…
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Racist Michelle Obama Cartoon Is Just Another Example of Conservatives’ Blatant Hypocrisy
Michelle Obama has been plagued by racist depictions since before her husband won the White House and throughout his presidency. There was the infamous cover of the New Yorker picturing the first lady as an Afro-haired, machine gun-toting militant in combat boots giving her husband a fist bump, also known as a “terrorist fist jab.”…
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Artist Turns Racist Flirtations on Tinder Into Compelling Look at Race and Sex
Over the weekend I swung by the 156 Art Fair, an annual exhibition of African art at Pioneer Works in Brooklyn, N.Y. Among the many strong presentations on display, Phoebe Boswell’s Stranger in the Village stood out. In April 2015 Boswell, a biracial Kenyan woman currently living in London, was temporarily situated in Gothenburg, Sweden,…
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He Proposed, but Now He Wants to Go to Counseling Before Planning the Wedding
My boyfriend of four years finally proposed six months ago. Now he refuses to discuss wedding plans or set a date. He wants to go to premarital counseling. I want to start planning the wedding. Should I force the issue or be patient and wait until he is ready to discuss the wedding? —Anonymous I’m…
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The Guy I’m Dating Wants to Put Us on Pause While He Studies. Should I Be Offended?
The guy I’m dating is studying for a certification and pretty much said that’s his biggest priority for the next few weeks and that his free time will be dedicated to studying. Should I be offended? Understanding? How should I handle this? —Anonymous It sounds like the guy you’re seeing might be studying for a…
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5 Things From Beyoncé’s Lemonade You Shouldn’t Try at Home
Beyoncé is our reigning pop queen. And considering the success of Lemonade, the visual album that aired on HBO, it’s a given that her wardrobe, her hair and makeup, and her imagery will be studied and imitated for the rest of the year. There is nothing wrong with this. Well, there’s nothing wrong with most…
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