• We Can All Learn From the NJ Prep School Student Who Spoke Out Against Racism and Sexism

    I might be Maya Peterson’s biggest fan. Don’t know her name just yet? You should. She’s the prep school graduate everyone’s buzzing about for her bold, if a bit misguided, way of tackling sexism and racism at her New Jersey high school.  Maya, a black-Latina lesbian, was elected class president at the very elite and…

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  • Why We Need More Black Female Rappers

    I swear, this is not another “I miss Lauryn Hill” article, even though, yes, I do miss her output. The Miseducation of Lauryn Hill (and, to a lesser degree, the Unplugged double album) changed my life for the better. But as often as Hill is cited for being the greatest female rapper of all time…

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  • Should I Tell My Husband Our Last Child Isn’t His?

    I am the mother of two. I have an amazing husband and father to my children. The last child is not his, and he is unaware. His best friend and I had a one-night stand two years ago when my hubby was out of town. I can’t bring myself to come clean. I just started…

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  • Men, Don’t Let Your Feelings Be Hurt by #PrisonBae

    Fact: Jeremy Meeks is fine. OK, technically that’s an opinion, but it seems the vast majority of people—including a couple of modeling agencies—share it, so let’s just say it’s close to fact. Meeks—the convicted felon with chiseled features, eyes the color of a Caribbean ocean and a café au lait complexion who has drawn the…

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  • Think Like a Man Too? No, Thank You

    It was something of a given that Think Like a Man was going to get a sequel. The film, inspired by the advice in Steve Harvey’s best-selling advice book and featuring an all-star black cast, grossed more than $33 million during its opening weekend and went on to clear nearly $96 million at the box…

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  • So What if Family Ties Got Malia Obama Her 1st Job?

    President Obama’s eldest daughter, Malia, has landed her first job, and some people, despite the fact that it doesn’t affect them in any way whatsoever, aren’t happy about it. According to news reports, the 15-year-old rising first daughter recently worked for a day as a production assistant on the CBS sci-fi series Extant. The show features award-winning…

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  • What Can I Do When My Husband Insists That Birth Control Is My Problem?

    My husband and I are discussing stopping at baby No. 2. I’m fine with that, but not his solution. He wants me to get my tubes tied or get on birth control. I told him I don’t want to and suggested instead that he have a vasectomy or wear a condom. He said he’s not…

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  • Learning to Live With Internet Haters

    Judge me. Last night I watched VH1’s Love & Hip-Hop: Atlanta. When it comes to the image of black people on TV, it gets no worse than most—but not all—of the cast. (Exhibit A: This season’s leading storyline involves an allegedly homemade sex tape that really resembles a slickly produced porno.) Let me plead my…

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  • Does Lunch With a Boy Toy Mean You’re Cheating on Your Husband? Yes

    I’m a married woman and have gone to lunch with a man 12 years younger for the past few days. He calls me his “big sis,” and we talk a lot about religion, sports, etc., but there’s nothing physical. Is this cheating? Disrespectful? My husband shouldn’t have a say, considering an affair he had in…

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  • Art Mixed With the KKK Leaves a Bad Aftertaste

    I’d gone to Montreal for a conference and, because I fell in love with the city, decided to stay a few more days to explore it. I was with my travel companion, a woman who’s working on a start-up site about art, and she asked me to tag along with her to check out Montreal’s…

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