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Spending His Birthday With His Boys Instead of Her Proves She’s an Option, Not a Priority
I’ve been with my boyfriend for almost a year. It’s our first time spending our birthdays with each other. I was planning something for his birthday, but he told me he might go out of town with his friends. I told him it was fine because it’s his birthday and he can spend it how…
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The Top 5 Most Profound (or Outrageous) Quotes From Azealia Banks’ Playboy Interview
Until recently I hadn’t paid much attention to Azealia Banks. I knew her better as the girl who was always beefing on Twitter than as an emcee. But then, in December, the Harlem rapper did a completely politically incorrect interview with New York City radio station Hot 97, where she went off about race, racism and cultural…
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Fiance’s Questioning Your Sexuality Over a New Short, Natural Do Is Truly Hair-Raising
I did a big chop yesterday. I sent a picture to my live-in fiance, who is the father to my 2-year-old daughter. He responded that I looked crazy and that he doesn’t like short hair. When I got home, he asked me if I was going for the lesbian look. I asked him if I…
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Going Celibate to Date a Minister? Better Be Sure It’s the Right Move for You
I am currently dating a minister. (He heavily pursued me.) As a result, we must remain celibate. I, however, was sexually active in previous relationships, so this is new for me. Is it wrong to use sex toys to satisfy myself and remove desires of having sex with him? —Anonymous To answer your actual question:…
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Meet Being Mary Jane’s ‘Cutty Buddy,’ Thomas Q. Jones
The closing scenes of last Tuesday night’s Being Mary Jane threw us all for a loop. After shooing away her ex, Mary Jane returned home and seemed to be in for the night. Suddenly she was getting dressed and heading back out to see a man we were introduced to only as “Cutty Buddy,” her…
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Does My Man Have a Right to Be Upset if I Accept Drinks From Other Guys When I Go Out Without Him?
Should a man get upset or feel a type of way if his girlfriend goes out, either solo or with friends, and other men buy her drinks? Or should she turn them down? —Anonymous Let me ask you this instead: Would you be OK if your man went out, either solo or with friends, and…
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Your Roomie Had a Right to React the Way She Did When Your Boyfriend Moved In
My best friend and I were living together when I met my boyfriend. When I became pregnant, he started to stay over every night because I got off work late and he was concerned for my safety. She started to become very distant and eventually moved out. After she left, she called to say that…
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What to Do When Your Fiance’s Baby Mama Wants to Attend Your Wedding
I’m getting married later this year. My fiance’s son is in the wedding and reception, and his mother wants to come to the reception. I said yes to the wedding, but she and I aren’t friends. No hard feelings toward her, I just don’t want her at my reception. My fiance said it’s not a big…
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Match Made in Heaven: Black Bachelor Explains Why He’s Looking for Love on TV
Maybe you remember this: A couple of years ago, The Bachelor—ABC’s megahit reality show featuring (nonblack) men, with access to an inordinate number of roses, who were looking for love while the cameras rolled on—was accused of being racist. In 19 seasons of the show, there had never been a black bachelor. There was even…
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Woman Who Married Herself Says ‘Wedding’ Was About Self-Love
Over the weekend, news quickly spread of a woman who had staged an elaborate wedding ceremony to marry herself on her 40th birthday. Yes, you read that right. Herself. Yasmin Eleby, a kindergarten teacher in Houston, hadn’t been in a serious relationship for six years. But the lack of a significant other didn’t stop her…
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