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Sex, Explained Was a Lot of White Noise and Mansplaining
As I sat and binge-watched what I thought would be an inclusive, sex-positive, informative series, I realized that Netflix and Janelle Monáe sold me a dream of black kink and birth outside the binary. Two years ago, Netflix partnered with the news outlet Vox to create the docuseries Explained, which focused on a number of…
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More to Love? 5 Partners Sound Off on Juicy Pregnancy Sex
This week, after scrolling through my social media feeds following reports that Real Housewives of Atlanta star Porsha Williams’ fiance Dennis McKinley blamed his ongoing infidelity on lack of interest in pregnancy sex, the world seemed to be confessing how gross they felt having sex during pregnancy. With black women already fighting for our lives…
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Black Bodies Will Not Be Your Platform, Jameela Jamil
As a black woman, I’m still learning to love my big tits, thick thighs, and heavy hips—but what I do know about my body is that it isn’t the literal or figurative platform for anyone’s agenda but my own. Yesterday morning, I woke up to some essential conversation on Black Twitter about eating disorders and…
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Not Getting My Hair Wet Was Keeping My Sex Life Dry
After years of wearing wigs and quick weaves, I recently decided to give my hair a break and try protective styles—and the transition sexually liberated me in ways I never expected. For years, I’d navigated anxiety and insecurities around body image and my sexual performance, but I can also say I’ve spent countless sexual encounters…
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Why My Daughter Will Be Getting a Sex Ed Crash Course, ‘Expeditiously’
Yesterday, the entire internet collectively rolled its eyes as Clifford “T.I.” Harris attempted to use yet another word he clearly doesn’t understand when he bragged about his 18-year-old daughter Deyjah Harris’ hymen on Nazanin Mandi and Nadia Moham’s podcast, Ladies Like Us. The three found humor in the moment T.I. explained that he takes Deyjah…
