self-love
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#28DaysBlackOfCosplay: Learning to Love Myself by Playing Dress-Up
I’m a cosplayer. A black geek. A black, queer, cosplaying geek in a plus-size body. I conduct a body-positivity panel at conventions called “Love Your Cosplay Body.” For about an hour, I wax philosophically about accepting yourself and ignoring the randos of the internet who comment on fat-black-girl pics with witty remarks like “whale” or…
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Why Masturbation Is Good for You and Your Partners, Too
Ladies, when is the last time you had a really intense orgasm, and was it one you gave to yourself? Fellas, how often do you rub one out? Is it once or twice a week, or once or twice a day? I know when we were younger, the adults around us tried to discourage us…
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Procrastination Is a Mother (of Fear): Set an Intention to #SelfLove, Part 4
We’re three weeks into the new year, and my big question for you this week is: Have you started on your new year’s goals yet? If your response is no, then my next question is, Why not? Now, this is not an opportunity to beat yourself up or judge, berate or condemn yourself. That would…
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Vision Boarding 101: Set an Intention to #SelfLove, Part 3
At the top of every New Year, there’s a lot of fuss about creating a vision board so that we can set ourselves up for smashing our goals in the upcoming year. But the question is, do vision boards really work? And if so, how? I began creating vision boards nearly nine years ago, and…
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I’ll Take Motivation for $1,000, Please: Set an Intention to #SelfLove, Part 2
We’re just one week into the new year of 2018—are you still reeling from holiday festivities, or still feeling inspired and motivated to hustle toward your New Year’s goals and intentions? Enthusiasm, clarity and focus are some of the best ingredients for creating success and achievement. But what happens when we lose our vigor? What…
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7 Steps to Achieving Our Goals in the New Year: Set an Intention to #SelfLove, Part 1
“I can effect change by transforming the only thing that I ever had control over in the first place, and that is myself.” —Deepak Chopra The year 2018 is here, and if you’re a goal setter, you’ve probably already set your New Year’s resolutions—or have at least thought about them. If you’re anything like I…
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Sizing Each Other Up: Why Do Other Women Try to Kill My Vibe?
In high school, I loved hanging out with other women, particularly those who exhibited a level of confidence in their stride. But cliques didn’t work well for me—I despised the thought of shadowing the queen bee of a pseudo girl group. Besides, even among my female friends, I felt different. It felt like puberty had…
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The Best Gifts Come Unwrapped This Holiday: Treat Yourself to Some #SelfLove, Part 4
“No matter how uncomfortable, how intense or how inconvenient your feelings are, facing your emotions, feeling them and accepting them for what they are is the best way to heal yourself and live a more balanced and peaceful life.” —Aletheia Luna Signs of the holiday season had barely rolled around before I began experiencing the…
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Sing Your Own Praises … Treat Yourself to Some #SelfLove, Part 3
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection.” —Buddha Since the beginning of the month, we’ve made a commitment to show up for ourselves with a little bit more love. If you’ve been following along with us, we started off our December journey to self-love by practicing the…
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Be Attentive, Be, Be Attentive: Treat Yourself to Some #SelfLove, Part 2
Editor’s note: Angela N. Holton, of online spiritual portal and self-development site Love Sanctuary, is a life coach joining The Glow Up to help and encourage our readers through a journey of self-love. Whether or not you feel like you’re struggling, Holton’s monthly essays and weekly action items are gentle, loving reminders to become the…