relationship advice
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Update: Tamera Mowry-Housley Denies Saying Women Should Be More Refined if They Want to Get a Man
Updated Thursday, May 18, 2017, 10:47 a.m. EDT: Editor’s note: According to Tamera Mowry-Housley, she did an interview with XoNecole (or Cocoa Fab) and was misquoted. We apologize for any confusion. Earlier: Tamera Mowry-Housley, half of the duo from Sister, Sister fame, has some interesting, and some may say archaic, views about dating and marriage.…
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Steve Harvey Said Asian Men Are Not Attractive
Yes, that Steve Harvey. During a recent episode of The Steve Harvey Show, the relationship-advice peddler and ruiner of Family Feud didn’t have too many nice things to say about Asian men. As he held up the book How to Date a White Woman: A Practical Guide for Asian Men, he asked his audience a…
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While We Were on a Break, He Got His Ex Pregnant. Now I’m Torn About What to Do
I’ve been dating this guy for a little over two years. During the time we both were studying for the bar, we were on a break. He slept with his ex-fiancee once, and now she’s pregnant. I’m devastated and broken. I feel like a part of me has died. He’s the only guy I’ve ever…
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I Want to Travel Solo for My Birthday, but My Boyfriend Wants to Tag Along
I’m turning 30 this year and wanted to go away by myself. I told my boyfriend about it. He said, “OK,” then asked, “Where are we going?” Should I take it to mean he doesn’t want me to go solo? I made it pretty clear that I wanted to go by myself. I don’t want…
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All of a Sudden My Boyfriend Doesn’t Believe in Marriage
I’ve been with my boyfriend for two-and-a-half years. We’ve discussed marriage and looked at rings, at his request. Recently he’s been conflicted about whether marriage (as an institution) is for him. He says he loves me and doesn’t want to break up. I don’t know if this is a normal fear and I should give…
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He Says I’m Not a Booty Call, but I’ve Never Seen His House in 2 Years of Dating
Dear Demetria: I am currently separated and close to finalizing my divorce. I have been dating this man for about two years. I’ve never been to his home, and the only time we get together is for amazing sex. He will not include me in his life. He says I am not a booty call,…
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My Boyfriend Knows How to Act Right When I Threaten to End It. Why Can’t He Act Right All the Time?
Why does my boyfriend straighten up when I basically say, “I’m ending this”? I’ve noticed that when I’m silent or tell him we need space after a huge argument, he gets all, “Gina, Gina, Gina,” like on the episode of Martin when he told her to step and she left. —Anonymous I have seen every…
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My Boyfriend’s Friend Keeps Telling Me My Man Is No Good. Should I Believe Him?
My best friend’s husband is friends with my boyfriend. I called to get advice and his male point of view. He always tells me to move on, and since that’s his friend, I feel like he and my best friend know more than they’re telling me. I ask “Why?” and all he says is I…
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Letting It Burn, and 9 Other Lessons Learned From Reading Terry McMillan
To say that the 1992 debut of Waiting to Exhale, Terry McMillan’s first best-seller, was a watershed moment in contemporary American fiction would be an understatement. For legions of black women, seeing characters like themselves placed front and center was a revolution unto itself. McMillan was 40 years old at the time, and like her…
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Maybe You're Single Because You're…Wait, Who Gives A Fuck?
Last week, we published “Maybe You’re Single Because You’re Wack” — a piece from Dustin Seibert articulating possible reasons why some of the more physically attractive and financially fit women in his sphere of influence seemed to be perpetually single. Like the rest of Dustin’s work on VSB, it was a long, verbose, and admittedly entertaining…