dating
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Your Conditioning Has Been Conditioned: Why Sexual ‘Preference’ Is Political
Though not straightforward, there is a connection between who we think is desirable and whose life has value within a white supremacist country like the United States. This question of value came to a head in the candidacy and unfortunate election of Donald Trump. What has become even truer now is that the status quo…
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Ex-Cop Found Guilty of Shooting Woman He Met on Craiglist and Burning Her Body
Tahreem Rana, 25, was found guilty of several charges, including felony murder, Wednesday, more than two years after he fatally shot Vernecia Woodard, 26, after meeting her on Craigslist, CBS reports. Rana killed her the first night they met in person. The two were originally meeting for a “romantic exchange,” authorities said. Rana, who was an Atlanta…
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He Says I’m Not a Booty Call, but I’ve Never Seen His House in 2 Years of Dating
Dear Demetria: I am currently separated and close to finalizing my divorce. I have been dating this man for about two years. I’ve never been to his home, and the only time we get together is for amazing sex. He will not include me in his life. He says I am not a booty call,…
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A User’s Guide to Dating While Black During Revolutionary Times
“Do you ever get scared driving around out here?” We were somewhere between Colorado and Nebraska, nothing to be seen for miles but fields, cows and the occasional Trump billboard. It was our first road trip in a newly minted “vacationship,” and after enjoying an extended Fourth of July weekend out West, my gentleman friend…
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She’s in Love With a ‘Nice’ Boyfriend Who Doesn’t Trust Her and Still Has a Wife
Dear Demetria: I’m in love with my boyfriend, but he is always accusing me of cheating. I’m not and never have, but I have thought about it because he doesn’t satisfy me sexually. His penis is small and [the oral sex] isn’t good, either. I knew this before we got together, but I gave him…
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If I Give You A Kidney, We Pretty Much Go Together Forever
Typically, I’m not a big fan of owing people shit once a relationship ends. Like, I don’t owe you to wait before I jump into a new relationship with somebody else. I don’t owe you to not bang your mother if she puts it out there. I mean, I probably shouldn’t bang your mother anywa.…
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That Time Getting Hit On By A Lame Dude Made Me Sympathize With Women
Once upon a time, pretty long ago, I used to manage a nightclub in Washington, D.C. At this particular nightclub, Liv (RIP), we had a rotating list of parties throughout the week. On Friday nights, we had gay night. This was always typically a good night for us for a few different reasons: 1) Gay…
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Dear Black Men: Black Women Always (Always!) Show Up To Events. Why Don't You?
In 1999, girl group 702 (which included my boo-in-my-head at the time, Kameelah Williams) released the song “Where My Girls At?” It is a great song from a great group from the ’90s that brings me much joy and happiness. Well, it’s 2016, and I’m asking, “Where my dudes at?” Why am I asking this?…
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Cuffing While Celibate: Blocking The Box and The Ex
In conjunction with TVOne in support of the show, Born Again Virgin, we’re taking a look at the idea of cuffing while celibate during this “Cuffing Season”. Find out more about Born Again Virgin here! New episodes of Born Again Virgin premiere December 8 on TVOne! When it’s all said and done, I believe that text…