dating
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Return of the Mack: How Does Momo Get Her Groove Back?
Previously on The Root After Dark, I told you about my ill-fated dalliance with a man I dubbed “Mr. Big.” It started off beautifully, trended toward being something good, then crashed and burned at the end. I spared you most of the sordid details because, to be honest, I just didn’t have the bandwidth to…
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Why I Had to Stop Seeing Mr. Big After Our 5-Day Date
I wrestled with this experience for weeks. I had to sit with it, talk with Mr. Big and ask questions, sit with it again, meditate, journal and talk to my confidante—all to process what turned out to be a very eye-opening and enlightening experience in more ways than one. In “regular” dating, you usually go…
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The 1st Date Was Successful. Now What?
Dating in the age of Twitter should really come with a manual or a rulebook or at least some guidelines for what happens after you successfully complete the first date and decide that you want to continue seeing the person. I either like you all the way or I don’t; there is no in-between. This…
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There’s Nothing Wrong With Having Dating Preferences
I recently went on the world’s longest first date. It was in Vegas, it lasted 48 hours and it was magnificent. He treated me like a queen and never said no to anything I asked. I’ll tell you about the date in a separate column, because it warrants its own space, but the significance of…
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It’s the Little Things
Editor’s note: This is part 3 of a multipart series. Catch up with part 1 and part 2. I was on a high for the entire week after our encounter. I got back home to Los Angeles and did everything with a grin on my face. I felt like I was walking on a cloud.…
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Love, Afro-Brazilian Style: Afrodengo Is Making It Easier to Find Black Love in Brazil
Thaisa Moreira Xavier met her husband in a Facebook group. Although she was conscious of her Afro-Brazilian heritage, she had few black friends growing up. The city she lived in and schools she attended were mostly white. But when she moved to Campinas, a city of 1 million approximately two hours outside of Sao Paulo,…
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Why I’m Open to Dating Bisexual Men
It’s 2018, in the year of our lord and savior Robyn Rihanna Fenty, and people are still 7-year-olds when it comes to sexual fluidity. A while back, while we were dining over fine cuisine at the Waffle House, a friend of mine asked if I had ever considered the fact that my ex-boyfriend was ……
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Starting Fresh: 5 Things I’m Leaving Behind in 2017
New year, new me. People make fun of that saying, but if you think about it, it is a mood, a message and a lifestyle. Each year on Dec. 31, we shed at least some part of our old selves and take on new habits, ideas or mantras. For me, Dec. 31, 2017, was no…
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What Well-Meaning Men Don’t Understand When It Comes to Life as a Woman
It seems we can’t go but a few days without hearing about another famous man’s name being linked to sexual harassment allegations. This has led to conversations from well-meaning men who don’t understand the prevalence of the threat of harassment. Well-meaning men have asked everything from the stupid, “Do I need to apologize to every…