dating
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10 Thoughts, Prayers and Concerns About Netflix's Love Is Blind, Which Is Absolutely Worth Watching
To be on social media right now is to have seen at least one or two passing mentions of the Netflix reality show series, Love Is Blind. My particular social media timelines are chock full of show references and “ZOMG!” and WTF?!?! and “I hate Jessica!” and “Fuck Carlton!” Oh, silly me…what is Love Is…
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Not Getting My Hair Wet Was Keeping My Sex Life Dry
After years of wearing wigs and quick weaves, I recently decided to give my hair a break and try protective styles—and the transition sexually liberated me in ways I never expected. For years, I’d navigated anxiety and insecurities around body image and my sexual performance, but I can also say I’ve spent countless sexual encounters…
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22 Days of Eating Like Beyoncé, Day 7: The Way to a Vegan's Heart Is Through Her Stomach
A wise commenter once said, “Girl, never go on a date hungry. Also, never decline date continuation suggestions after he’s seen your makeup drip and your hair swell up like Donna Summer!” Words to live by, y’all (thanks, @FeministOnFire). And since I’d spent the very first day of my 22 Days challenge looking a hot…
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Is Dating Getting Young People in the Door to Therapy? These Experts Say Yes
Dating is hard. Anyone who says otherwise is probably lying or not a millennial. Whether the reason is we’re too busy to find someone, too uncomfortable to get out there (one time for the awkward black girls!), or a whole host of other reasons, more and more young people are finding it harder to settle…
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I Used to Reject Therapy. Now I Embrace It Wholeheartedly
My relationship with therapy is, to say the least, old and complicated. When I was a young child, my public-school teachers sent me to therapy. According to my mama, I was acting like a “damn fool” and they thought I was adversely impacted by my parents’ divorce. I don’t remember much about it except the…
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I Tried to Land a Date From a Street Sign
We sit around the dining room table on the cusp of the itis. Somehow we gather enough energy to keep the party going into dessert—homemade flan. I slide my spoon into the substance. I’m a picky eater with immature taste buds. I already know the outcome. I do not repeat. “So, y’all got any friends,…
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How Well Do You Know Yourself? Would You Date You?
Step outside yourself for a moment. Imagine you are a friend who has to set someone up on a blind date with your friend (you). How would you describe yourself? We all have an image of ourselves in our heads. We know what we like and what we don’t like. When we meet new people,…
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Sen. Kamala Harris Is a 54-Year-Old Black Woman, and Yes, She Dated Willie Brown. So What?
Listen up everyone because this will likely be the first, last and only time I will write these words: We have to talk about California Sen. Kamala Harris’ dating life. Why? Is it relevant to her qualifications to be president? No. Is it because her previous relationships were scandalous in some way that reflects on…
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New Year, New Me—But for Real This Time
Seventeen days into 2019, I am still reflecting on what I want for myself this year and how I am going to go about getting it. As a bullet journal enthusiast, I am all about making lists. I like to take a goal and break it down into smaller tasks that I can then plot…
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You're Single, Childless and Your Aunt Is Nosy. Happy Thanksgiving!
The third Thursday in November is upon us! If you’re one of the brave people visiting a black family as a single and childless person, you need to devise a strategy for dealing with nosy people. Don’t think you need a strategy? Well, what are you going to do when Nana gives you a look…