dating, relationships, & sex
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The Problem With #TeamLawrence, Explained
Who is Lawrence? Lawrence Walker is a character from Insecure, an HBO show which derives from Issa Rae’s The Mis-Adventures of Awkward Black Girl web series. In season one, the unemployed and then underemployed Lawrence (Jay Ellis) was Issa’s live-in boyfriend — a relationship that lasted for (I think) four years. After growing frustrated with…
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If Baby Boy 2 Is A Thing, I Have Some Sequel Ass Questions!
In what can only be described as the most covfefe’s of all covfefe’s, Baby Boy 2 might actually be a thing. What’s that you say? You didn’t know Baby Boy 2 was even a possibility because why would anybody sequelize (surprisingly, “sequelize” is a real word, in the same vein that Pinnochio was a real…
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For Colored People Still Thinking About Dating Interracially When Watching Get Out Wasn’t Enough
By the time you read this, you’ll have had more than enough time (two whole weekends, b!) to have seen Jordan Peele’s instant classic flick, Get Out. If you haven’t watched it… get your life together. I’m not usually one for horror movies, but I am one for doing things for the culture, and Get…
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What I’ve Learned (And What I'm Learning) A Year After My Divorce
Seems that nearly everyone agrees that 2016 was a front-to-back wack-ass year for a lot of wack-ass reasons. For me, the year took a sharp-left shit-show turn in its very first seconds. Literally. During an otherwise wonderful New Year’s Eve wedding with my family in Detroit, my wife and I descended into the worst fight…
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Confession: I Went On 2.5 Dates With A Hotep And Lived To Tell The Tale
Before Facebook memes about women making a plate for their man and Dr. Umar Johnson took the interwebs by storm, I was quite uninitiated to the world of the Hotep. I knew guys like Shazza Zulu from A Different World existed but I never thought I was the kind of dame to have one stumble…
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I’m Team Issa Over Team Lawrence, Because Issa Reminds Me Of Me
In the first scene of the first episode of Insecure, Issa Rae makes the mission statement of her show clear when she responds to a student who says her dad told her nobody is checking for bitter Black women. “Tell your dad Black women aren’t bitter, they’re just tired of being expected to settle for…
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On Insecure's Revolutionary (And Real) Depictions Of Young Black People Having Sex
Last night’s Insecure finale ended with both a bang (Lawrence finally deciding to take Tasha the bank teller up on her, um, offer) and a whimper (Issa’s couch cry in Molly’s arms); culminating a season unlike any other I’d seen on network or cable TV. Of course, we’ve seen shows where friendships between Black women served…
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Prenups Are For Poor People
And by “poor people,” I mean me and you, of course: basically, regular people. I’m 100 percent sure that the likes of Kanye and Kim Kardashian aren’t reading my writings, but if they are, I need the Pirate Black Yeezy Boost 350s in a size 10. Thanks. By definition, a prenuptial agreement is a contract…