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  • To Tattoo or Not to Tattoo 

    I don’t have any tattoos. It’s not for lack of want, either. For the longest, I’ve wanted to get a sleeve. I feel like I would look cool with my entire left arm tatted up. I have ideas of tats that I want and where I’d place them. I’m a tat dreamer. There’s the “inshallah”…

  • The Best Hip-Hop Singles of 2015

    It’s tough being a hip-hop fan in your mid-30s. Your formative years took place entirely during the genre’s “renaissance”–roughly 1992 to 2000—when classics dropped weekly and before ringtone rap, singles-driven albums and J-Kwon came in and stunk up the whole joint. You know what quality and effort sound like. Some hip-hop heads—the portly dudes rocking…

  • I Never Tell My Daughter She’s Beautiful, and I Want Others to Stop Saying It, Too

    First things first. This column is not about how beautiful my daughter Emmy is. This is not about oh-my-goodness-please-stop-noticing-my-daughter’s-model-like-breathtaking-beauty. Emmy’s cute. Like every other 8-year-old girl in her class—and beyond. My concern is this. Often, when we are out and we see my friends, neighbors or co-workers, and they meet Emmy for the first time,…

  • When to Ask for Help

    They say money talks, which is a good thing because apparently we don’t like talking about money. According to a 2014 study completed by Wells Fargo, almost 44 percent of Americans consider personal finance to be one of the most difficult topics to discuss, outranking death, politics, religion and taxes.  We talk about everything from…

  • Why I’m Not Letting My Son Play Football

    The movie Concussion, starring Will Smith and his odd African accent, opens on Christmas Day this year. It’s a movie about a forensic pathologist, Dr. Bennet Omalu, who became at odds with the NFL over his research and study into chronic traumatic encephalopathy, or CTE, which can be the end result of one too many hits…

  • The 2015 List of People We Don’t Mess With Anymore

    Notwithstanding the fact that two very smart brothas (Damon Young and the late comedian Patrice O’Neal) instructed me never to trust a black man without facial hair—we (black people) collectively stopped messing with Taye Diggs for a very different reason. Diggs made headlines, and our s—t list, when he said he doesn’t want his biracial…

  • Being Mary Jane Recap: I’m Not Your Superwoman

    Pauletta “Mary Jane” Patterson is finally double-Dutching out of family drama that doesn’t involve her. Being Superwoman all these years has only made her come off as the “ferocious bitch” raining on everybody’s parade. M.J. steps in as the super-cool auntie by having D’Asia over for a sleepover. This includes reading I Am Malala. And…

  • Remember When T-Pain Made Auto-Tune a Thing?

    Let’s get the album title out of the way first. T-Pain indeed started out as a rapper. His hip-hop cover of Akon’s hit single “Locked Up” led to a record deal. But T-Pain decided to transition to singing in lieu of rapping, hence the name of the album, which was released a decade ago on…

  • 5 Gift Alternatives so You’ll Spend #Not1Dime This Holiday

    The holidays are upon us, and the coquito-infused ugly-sweater parties are in full effect. This is the time of year when we are all a little “extra.” We eat, drink and even spend more than we typically do. But this year might be a little different. In support of the call for “justice or else,”…

  • What You Can Do Now to Save Money in 2016

    Harriette Cole is the author of the book of meditations 108 Stitches: Words We Live By and a contributing editor at The Root. Follow her on Twitter.