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Although it’s more likely than not that they’ll stay on the secured grounds of their rented estate, it’s not impossible that if you’re on Martha’s Vineyard at the same time that you could bump into the first family. Maybe Mrs. O will be taking the girls to Mad Martha’s for an afternoon ice cream. The president might…

OK, I will admit it: I didn’t much care for or about the Real Housewives franchise until Bravo decided to take it to Atlanta.  I sat down to watch them last season and, to my husband’s horror, I found it riveting, for all kinds of reasons. (Who lives with that kind of excess? Why buy a…

Dear Come Correct:  My boyfriend and I often see a few other couples socially for things where we go together and split the tab.  We’ve done dinner and a movie night, a weekend at the beach, a tasting at a winery.  Every time we’ve done this, we’ve split the tab four ways—each couple pays 25%—and…

Dear Come Correct: Our business has definitely been affected by the recession.  Some people were laid off.  To prevent even more from being fired, we have had no raises this year, the annual company picnic was cancelled and so were paid holidays.  If you want to take Thanksgiving off this year, you’ll have to use…

Sometimes it’s rudeness, sometimes it’s a cultural misunderstanding.  Whatever.  There are questions you shouldn’t be asked that you probably will be anyway.  Herewith some answers that could be helpful: Q: How much do you make?  How much did your car/house/necklace cost? Y: My mother raised me not to talk about money outside the immediate family.…

A good friend of mine called recently to check in and catch up.  We hadn’t talked for awhile. “I’ve been out,” she said carefully. “But you’re back now.  That’s good.  Are you okay?” “Getting there.  I’ll fill you in later.  I’m in the office and there a lot of nosy people in here, let me…

She did not throw telephones or tantrums.  She did not sulk in the backs of limousines, refusing to meet her public.  She was never rude or snobbish.  She was the personification of approachable elegance.  She always remembered that somewhere, some little black girl was gazing at her in open-mouthed admiration, and she acted accordingly.  Naomi…

Given all the attention to and conversation about Dr. Gates’ run-in with the Cambridge constabulary, it might be worth a brief review of how to keep oneself safe when interacting with the police. Obviously, all police don’t profile—but enough do that this has, historically, been a hot-button issue in the black community.  When my co-author,…

“Sorry” probably means more in institutional cases when there’s monetary punishment attached.  The swim club in Philadelphia that rejected a class of black children recently may well find that they’re VERY sorry for having taken that action. And I suspect the Cambridge Police Department will be doing more than finding its treatment of Harvard professor…

One recent Saturday afternoon, a friend and I were in a newly-hip part of LA grocery-shopping in one of those stores that caters to the Urban Affluent. On our way out, we were in the elevator that goes to the garage, when we heard someone coming toward the elevator. So we held the door. A…