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While We Were on a Break, He Got His Ex Pregnant. Now I’m Torn About What to Do
I’ve been dating this guy for a little over two years. During the time we both were studying for the bar, we were on a break. He slept with his ex-fiancee once, and now she’s pregnant. I’m devastated and broken. I feel like a part of me has died. He’s the only guy I’ve ever…
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I Want to Travel Solo for My Birthday, but My Boyfriend Wants to Tag Along
I’m turning 30 this year and wanted to go away by myself. I told my boyfriend about it. He said, “OK,” then asked, “Where are we going?” Should I take it to mean he doesn’t want me to go solo? I made it pretty clear that I wanted to go by myself. I don’t want…
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All of a Sudden My Boyfriend Doesn’t Believe in Marriage
I’ve been with my boyfriend for two-and-a-half years. We’ve discussed marriage and looked at rings, at his request. Recently he’s been conflicted about whether marriage (as an institution) is for him. He says he loves me and doesn’t want to break up. I don’t know if this is a normal fear and I should give…
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He Says I’m Not a Booty Call, but I’ve Never Seen His House in 2 Years of Dating
Dear Demetria: I am currently separated and close to finalizing my divorce. I have been dating this man for about two years. I’ve never been to his home, and the only time we get together is for amazing sex. He will not include me in his life. He says I am not a booty call,…
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My Boyfriend Knows How to Act Right When I Threaten to End It. Why Can’t He Act Right All the Time?
Why does my boyfriend straighten up when I basically say, “I’m ending this”? I’ve noticed that when I’m silent or tell him we need space after a huge argument, he gets all, “Gina, Gina, Gina,” like on the episode of Martin when he told her to step and she left. —Anonymous I have seen every…
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My Friend Wouldn’t Get Off My Case After I Told Her I Was Having Unsafe Sex
Dear Demetria: My friend scolded me because I choose to engage in unprotected sex more often than not. I agreed with her, but she kept going. I know she means well, but I can’t help feelilng judged, even after seeing her point. She told me I won’t stop until I get AIDS. What do I…
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My Boyfriend’s Friend Keeps Telling Me My Man Is No Good. Should I Believe Him?
My best friend’s husband is friends with my boyfriend. I called to get advice and his male point of view. He always tells me to move on, and since that’s his friend, I feel like he and my best friend know more than they’re telling me. I ask “Why?” and all he says is I…