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The Problem With ‘Respectability Memes’
Recently, I stumbled across an online poll cataloging the age at which women first noticed sexual attention from men. Actually, “women” might be inaccurate; the median age was 12. For me, I vividly remember my first awareness at age 10. I was walking home on the last day of school, eating a celebratory ice cream…
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7 Reasons Why We Can’t Date if You Don’t Vote
“Vote your heart … unless it’s evil,” my homegirl laughs, taking a sip of her drink. I can’t help but laugh, too, despite the loaded conversation. After all, my friend, a steadfast supporter of the “other blue meat,” is right: This election cycle—more than most in recent history—has the potential to move our country forward…
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If ‘Thick Thighs Save Lives,’ Why Are You Fat-Shaming Women? 5 Reasons You Should Stop
“You probably shouldn’t call yourself ‘an amazon’ in your profile,” he messages me. “Oh, really? And why is that?” I respond. After all, at a smooth and stacked 5 feet 10 inches—with a penchant for heels—I find that most men I match with online aren’t even at my eye level, let alone taller. I figure…
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#BaeWatch: It’s Time to Look for Love! Here Are 14 Ways to Find It This Valentine’s Day
So, you’re alone this Valentine’s Day—again. Join the club. But what are you doing about it? If “single” isn’t your preferred relationship status, it’s time to stop hoping that love happens and make some changes—and some new connections. Here are 14 ways you can take back Valentine’s Day and take control of your love life.…
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5 Signs You’re About to Be Racially Fetishized
So … what’s your type? Admit it: You probably have one; most of us do. No harm there. We like what we like, right? Right? Now that we’ve broken the ice, do you have a fetish? Too personal? Well, how about this: Six months ago I decided to stop side-eyeing my singlehood (read: my painfully…
