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My Husband Wants to Stay in for New Year’s Eve. Is It Wrong to Go Out Without Him?
My husband is being difficult. He’s changed his mind at the last minute about going to a party we planned to attend on New Year’s Eve. I want to celebrate and bring in the New Year as a couple, surrounded by friends. Now he wants to stay home. Am I wrong if I want to…
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If the Holidays Are Your Most Depressing Time of Year, This One’s for You
I’ve been fine all year, but the closer it gets to the holidays, the more depressed I get. I don’t think I have depression, I’m just not into Christmas. This happens every year. I look at all these people on social media at holiday parties, and see the couples being all lovey-dovey, and I just…
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My Friends Didn’t Show Up at My Birthday Party, and I’m Ready to Drop-Kick Them
My boyfriend planned a surprise birthday celebration for me lasting over the course of three days. The first night, only two of the 10 friends that RSVP’d showed up. On my actual birthday, none of my friends showed up. On the last day, four of my friends showed up. Everyone else in attendance was a…
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Serena’s SI Cover: Can a Sister Have a Moment Without All the Drama?
So. Sports Illustrated named Serena Williams its 2015 Sportsperson of the Year, the first time an individual woman has won the award in more than 30 years. In a lengthy essay, the publication lauded Williams’ remarkable professional accomplishments, then got to the more important reasons why Williams was chosen: “Because Williams kept pushing herself to…
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He Lied About Erasing Our Sex Tape and Was Surprised When I Got Mad
My boyfriend and I recorded a sex tape one day and agreed to delete it months ago. Last night he took out his phone without warning or asking and played it. I was upset and felt gross. He apologized but seemed surprised at how upset I was. Was I wrong for being mad? Is this…
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No, Ayesha Curry Did Not Slut-Shame Women With Her Tweets
I’ve been following the drama over Ayesha Curry’s tweets from this past weekend, in which she casually chatted about her preference for wearing “classy” clothes instead of more revealing, “trendy” wears. I’ve been throwing the illest side eye at responses in editorials, on social media and even among my friends as I read about how…
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My Man Is Opening a Business With a Female Co-Worker and Didn’t Tell Me About It for a Year
My boyfriend of five years told me today that he started a business with a female former co-worker. They are opening a bar together, which I knew was a dream of his, but he kept the business dealings from me for the last year. This woman has been a point of contention in our relationship.…
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I Hate All the Family Drama. Is It Cool to Spend the Holidays Alone?
I dread spending the holidays with my family. What are supposed to be peaceful, fun gatherings always turn into a bunch of folks bickering and dragging up old stories and lots of drama. I never look forward to going home, and I’m thinking about skipping dinner this year. Does that make me selfish? —Anonymous My…
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7 Things I Appreciate About America After 10 Days in Brazil
I’ve just returned home from a 10-day trip to Brazil. It is worth the mandatory (and exhaustive) visa process to go. Brazil was glorious. It’s everything it looks like in the best photos, but 10 times better in person. The folks who are headed there for the Olympics next year are in for a treat.…
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Is It OK to Travel Without My Husband?
Have you ever written about doing separate vacations when you’re married? I think it would be an interesting topic. —Anonymous Occasionally readers write in, asking me to tackle subjects that may not apply to their current lives, but they’re curious to hear my thoughts about anyway. This question is not as random as it sounds.…
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