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My Man’s BFF Is a Woman, and They Seem a Little Too Close
“My boyfriend has a woman friend who knows every move we make. They talk constantly, and she knows everything he does before I get an update. They grew up together and are super close. Is this just friends being friends or suspect?” —B.A. I can’t give you a definitive answer based on the information given.…
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SNL Deserves No Love for Doing the Right Thing
Back in September, Saturday Night Live earned the ire of outspoken fans when the show announced its new cast lineup, which failed to include a black woman, a glaring omission. It didn’t help matters when black cast member Kenan Thompson blamed the show’s diversity problem on a weak talent pool. The SNL cast had not…
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Relationship Breaks: Won’t Fix the Issue, May Bring More Drama
“How do you feel about couples taking a break? My girl suggested it, but I don’t know how I feel about people being able to check in and out of a relationship when they feel like it. Does it say something about my self respect if I let her take a break?” —R.Y. Taking a…
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Bride’s Story a Cautionary Tale of the Mistakes Some Black Women Make
Over the weekend, the New York Times published “A Reluctant Bride Conquers Her Fears” in its Weddings section. The story focused on a black couple who said “I do” on Dec. 14. It was a celebratory tale with a happy ending, but some women found themselves in tears before they finished. “I’m crying over this Demetria,”…
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Why He Gets a Pass for Cheating and She Doesn’t
“It amazes me the double standards of cheating: Friend cheated on wife; both their families more or less were upset but shrugged, expected her to stay/forgive. She then cheated two years later and everyone was screaming he should leave her. Why is a woman cheating more unforgivable?” —F.T. We live in a patriarchy that’s full…
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R. Kelly Fans, Please Stop Blaming the Victims
I can’t say I’m all that surprised about the backlash against the folks who have been denouncing R. Kelly lately. I called on people who still supported him to rethink that position after the Village Voice interviewed Jim DeRogatis—the journalist who broke the story of R. Kelly’s sexual conduct with underage girls nearly 15 years…
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Oh, No, He Didn’t: A Groupon on a First Date?
“A guy asked me out for a first date. We went to a nice restaurant. All was well until the bill came. He pulled out a two-for-one Groupon and told me that I could cover the tip. My girls say dump him immediately. I’m not opposed to using coupons or saving money, but well into…
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6 Things We Care About More Than Beyoncé’s Feminism
If you’re reading this, you have an Internet connection. And because you have said connection, then you are undoubtedly aware that Beyoncé Knowles released an album out of nowhere last week on Friday. For the better part of the last 96 hours, the Internet has been going HAM about Beyoncé, the person and super-secret album…
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Guilt Over Sleeping With Best Friend’s Man Is the Least of Your Problems
“I slept with my best friend’s boyfriend. The guilt is tripping me out. The boyfriend is acting so normal about it, too. Today he proposed to her! I don’t know what to do. I can’t let her marry him knowing what happened between us. How should I go about fixing this? “She and I are…
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I’ve Finally Come to My Senses About R. Kelly
Consider this a public penance. Last year I wrote a story for Clutch magazine, “No Longer Trapped in the Closet,” boldly defending my decision to still like R. Kelly’s music despite the rumors surrounding him about his proclivity for sex with underage girls. You have to understand, R. Kelly’s first solo album dropped in 1993,…
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