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I'm Getting Married In 10 Days. And I'm Fine With That.
I keep waiting for it to happen. Since maybe May, (approximately) 40% of the conversations I’ve had with everyone from my friends and family to my (new) barber and my fiancee’s co-workers have included a mention about my upcoming wedding. And, since June, 50% of those convos contain a variant of the following question: “So…are you…
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How Seinfeld Became My Dating Litmus Test
It was 2006. Her name was Ashley. We met at one of those “young professional” mixers people only attend to meet attractive young professionals of the opposite sex. She was an attractive young professional of the opposite sex. We exchanged business cards and made plans to “connect” in the near future. The connection ended up…
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What Solange Would Have Said About The Fight If She Were One Of Your Cousins
Of course, anyone with any knowledge of how the Knowles/Carter cult handles things knew Solange’s public non-response would likely be her official public response to the chicken fight seen ’round the internet. And, admittedly, this is how a family is supposed to handle family business. Leave the passive-aggressive Facebook posts about family to your cousins.…
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Relax, Everyone. White Rappers Aren't Taking Over
I returned home this weekend after spending the previous week on a cruise ship. Which means the last 48 or so hours have been spent reacclimating to real life and attempting to rid myself of the remnants of cruise culture. I have to keep reminding myself that I won’t be eating 17 full meals a…
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How To Be Really Good At Being A Down-Low Brotha
Remember back in 2004? When gay Black men pretending to be straight became America’s boogeymen, getting blamed for everything from H.I.V. rates to your half-empty bottle of juice in the office fridge? (“Man. Damn DL brothas must’ve drank my apple juice again. Fuck J.L.King!”) And remember how everyone — well, everyone except Tyler Perry —…
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Three Quick Thoughts About Robin Thicke's "Get Her Back"
1. I don’t know how sincere Robin Thicke’s begging happens to be. None of us do, actually. Not even Paula Patton. But, I do know, though, that by crafting this album, he makes us all skeptics. Perhaps I’m just a natural skeptic. I still don’t believe it’s not butter. But, if someone is sincerely trying to…
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"New Black" Is The New Black
This level of awareness isn’t inherently negative. The process of thinking about Blackness doesn’t make you love it any less. Sometimes, it makes you love it more. And, as The Blackest Names tournament proves, it can be fun. But, an existence in and navigation of a place where you’re perpetually forced to examine how your…
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Jason Whitlock, Greg Howard, And Speaking Around "Company"
Because of some mechanical issues, a Megabus trip last week from D.C. to Pittsburgh — a journey that’s usually six hours long — ended up lasting close to nine. Aside from spending an hour cursing my decision not to just drive to D.C. and back, I spent a good part of that trip reading Greg…
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Why I'm Totally Here For Kyla McMullen's List Of 73 Sexy Science Sistas
1. Because my homie Dahlia Haynes is on it. She’s #30. And I don’t know if she’s rocking a shirt or one of Jadakiss’s jean jackets with the sleeves cut. 2. Because I can think of several women who could have made the list, but didn’t — including the women I profiled for EBONY’s “Sistas…
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Welcome To The New VSB
“What the hell are we doing?” This is an accurate synopsis of each of the dozens of conversations Panama and I have had in the past three years about the future and direction of VerySmartBrothas. We’ve both often joked that it has managed to stay afloat in spite of ourselves. But, after a couple years…
