the story of he did that

  • Boy, You Done Messed Up

    Editor’s note: This is part 6 of a multipart series. Catch up with part 1 , part 2, part 3, part 4 and part 5. You can always tell when a man knows he fucked up. He will apologize. He will try to make it right. He will try humor, flirting, bribes and gifts—anything that…

  • Sex Changes Everything

    Editor’s note: This is part 5 of a multipart series. Catch up with part 1 , part 2, part 3 and part 4. In my experience, although men say they are OK with a woman being nonmonogamous, in truth they are not. It probably sounds good to them in theory because it means that they…

  • When He Talks That Talk and Walks That Walk

    Editor’s note: This is part 4 of a multipart series. Catch up with part 1 , part 2 and part 3. If I’ve said this before, it bears repeating: There is something to be said about a man who puts actions behind his words. Y’all know what I’m talking about. We’ve all been talked to…

  • It’s the Little Things

    Editor’s note: This is part 3 of a multipart series. Catch up with part 1 and part 2. I was on a high for the entire week after our encounter. I got back home to Los Angeles and did everything with a grin on my face. I felt like I was walking on a cloud.…

  • He Did That

    Editor’s note: This is part 2 of a multipart series. Catch up with part 1. I was at ease with him almost immediately. All of his jokes (both corny and not) aside, there was something very sincere in the way he spoke to me—a level of honesty was there that stood out and made itself…

  • Incidents in the Life of a Serial Nonmonogamist 

    I wasn’t planning on meeting anyone, and I wasn’t planning on liking him. It was late last summer in New York City. I had come for a work event, and ended up with some extra time on my hands in the city. I should have been on a plane on my way back home to…