grief and the holidays

  • Life, Loss and #LovingAlana: A Valentine

    Alana Devich had been quietly intrigued with Malkia Cyril since the mid-1990s. Nearly 20 years later, she answered his text request for a date with what she called her “best line ever.” “In the words of my favorite ad campaign: You’re hungry. I’m tasty. Let’s do this,” she wrote. They’d first noticed each other while…

  • Going Toward the Light: My ‘Year of the Glow Up’ in Review

    When I declared 2017 “the Year of the Glow Up,” I needed a win. 2016 was my first year without my mother, and it was painful, to say the least. In her death, my greatest fear had been realized, and adjusting to that “new normal” wasn’t easy. My mother was my center; I’d lost my…

  • Christmas Ain’t Christmas Without My Grandma

    The last time I saw my grandmother alive was at my uncle Bobby’s funeral. She looked tired. Grandma breathlessly said, “Hello,” almost unable to get out of her chair. We did our usual routine. I told her how much I missed her. How I wished I had more time to stay but had to hit…