For many around the country, the brutal murder of Nia Wilson, an 18-year-old black woman killed last Sunday night at a BART station platform in Oakland, Calif., hit close to home.

When bigotry abounds, it’s easy to get frustrated and want to give up (particularly on white people), but every now and then, someone steps up and demonstrates how one can use white privilege the right way—to right the wrongs of racism and demand that white people to do better.