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Auntie Unfiltered: How to Be an Ally
Thirty days after the murder of George Floyd at the hands of former Minneapolis police officer Derek Chauvin, it seems white people are still slowly coming to the realization that AmeriKKKa is racist as fuck. It’s not just the overt racism that is out there, but all the little microaggressions and insidious ways it has…
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Auntie Unfiltered: AmeriKKKa Gaslights Black People
AmeriKKKa gaslights black people. That’s it. That’s the post. Seriously, though. Now that America is having her racial awakening and realizing just how inherently racist she really is, we have companies and celebrities and everyone else jumping on the #BlackLivesMatter bandwagon. Should these moves be applauded or are they simply superficial gestures so “the blacks”…
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Auntie Unfiltered: Self-Care in the Age of Coronavirus and Racism
The roof! The roof! The roof is on fire! We don’t need no water; let that mother fucker burn! Nieces and nephews, the world is quite literally on fire. As if being under quarantine due to the coronavirus wasn’t enough, we as black people have the added strain and pressure of several high-profile killings of…
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Auntie Unfiltered: My Mother-In-Law Won't Eat My Cooking
I am not now nor have I ever been married. It just never happened. Don’t worry; your auntie has not been over here suffering in lonely spinsterdom, and to be clear, I love being boo’d up; I just don’t want be tied down. I do have friends and cousins who are either still married now…
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Oprah Gives Sound Advice on Failure During 'Some Good News' Appearance
The Office and Jack Ryan star John Krasinski is trying to offer glimmers of joy during this dumpster fire of a year with his weekly YouTube show, Some Good News. The premise of the show finds the actor and director highlighting some of the best things he’s seen on the internet through fan submissions, such…
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This Is Dedicated to All the Unfiltered Aunties I Have Known and Loved
Aunties are a thing in the black community. Whether they are the actual sibling of one of your parents, a close friend of your mama’s, a coworker, a teacher, someone at the church or just a member of your community, we all know at least one black lady we think of as “Auntie.” She gives…
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If You’re a Person Who Says ‘I Just Respect Your Vision and I Want to Build With You,’ Please Stop Doing This
Because as Luvvie articulated a few weeks ago, it is the global mantra of professional time wasters. Because it’s ice-breaking and networking jargon that doesn’t actually mean anything (no, seriously—it doesn’t mean anything). Because what the hell do you want to build? A fondue castle? A Lego playground? An Ikea bookcase? Because even if you…
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Ask Agatha: Her Friends and Family Hate Me (but I Kinda See Why), Superhero Sex and More
Austin from Pittsburgh asks: Why do people, so often, take an instant dislike to me? I assume it saves time. Kafui from Stone Mountain, Ga., asks: What are the biggest mistakes guys make on dates? They show up 5-feet-8 with a beard and have the audacity not to have a personality. No, seriously, the biggest…
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Ask Agatha: Should I Ignore Her When She Says There’s No Future for Us?
Landon from Seattle asks: After nearly a year and a half of court-ordered no contact between the mother of my child and me, I recently received an email from her stating that she wanted us to communicate better, if only to show our child that we don’t hate each other. In said email, she also…
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Words of Comfort for the Motherless on Mother’s Day
While many of us celebrate Mother’s Day by honoring our mom with gifts, breakfast in bed, movie dates and all-around pampering, there are many people in the world who no longer have their mothers. This tragedy makes acknowledging this holiday difficult. Ty Alexander of Gorgeous in Grey has released her debut book, Things I Wish…