Nelly and Ashanti: An Evolution of Their Love Story

The two music icons have come together at last, and we’re looking back at their long journey to each other.

Nelly and Ashanti attend as Nelly celebrates Halloween and his 50th birthday at Guardian Works on November 1st, 2024 in Atlanta, Georgia. Image: Photo by Derek White/Getty Images

Nelly & Ashanti are getting ready for their next step in the next step in their relationship: reality TV. That’s right, the hip-hop and R&B staples are heading to Peacock with a brand new docuseries set to follow their lives after they welcomed their first child together last year.

Video will return here when scrolled back into view
Marvin Sapp Turns Viral Controversy Into A Song — But Not Everyone’s Praising Him

Their love story spans decades, a true hip-hop romance for the ages. In honor of their exciting new venture, we’re talking a walk down memory lane, looking back on the over 20-year story of Nelly and Ashanti.

Nelly and Ashanti in the Early 2000s

Image: Getty Images Photo by KMazur/WireImage Image: Getty Images Photo by KMazur/WireImage

In the early 2000s, you couldn’t find bigger Hip-Hop and R&B stars than Nelly and Ashanti. Fresh off her debut self-titled album with hits like “Foolish,” Ashanti was everywhere, appearing on almost every hook of popular Hip-Hop collaborations of that era. 2003 was a year of continued success for Nelly as well, as he took home the Grammy for his chart-topping hit with Kelly Rowland, “Dilemma.” The two reportedly met right at the height of their success, at the 2003 Grammy Award nomination announcements. “The first time I met Nelly he asked me for my autograph, but I think he was being sarcastic and I remember writing it down on the program,” Ashanti revealed while on Vh1’s Behind the Music.

The Two “Go Out” in ‘05

Image: Getty Images Photo by Johnny Nunez/WireImagw Image: Getty Images Photo by Johnny Nunez/WireImagw

While they have been linked since as early as 2003, the two were often cryptic in the first decade or so after they met as to whether or not they were truly dating. One of the first true confirmations came from Ashanti in 2005, when she told People that while she and the “Country Grammar” rapper were “not boyfriend and girlfriend,” they “went out.”

Ashanti Hints at Engagement in ‘05

Image: Getty Images Photo by Frank Di Piazza/Getty Images Image: Getty Images Photo by Frank Di Piazza/Getty Images

From 2003 to 2008, the two remained linked in the press, with rumors constantly swirling about the two and their potential romantic connection. In 2008, Ashanti once again spoke on their relationship, insisting to People that they are “good friends” who “kick it.” When asked about an engagement between the two, she replied, “Oh no. Noooo! No engagement, but definitely in the future. Ha! Ha!”

Their First Official Collaboration

Image: Getty Images Photo by Johnny Nunez/WireImage Image: Getty Images Photo by Johnny Nunez/WireImage

While the two arguably dominated the music game in the 2000s, they made us wait a bit before collaborating. That all changed in 2009 when they dropped “Body on Me,” their song together with Akon that appeared on both Ashanti’s album “The Declaration” and Nelly’s “Brass Knuckles” record.

Nelly Puts the Brakes on the Marriage Conversation

Image: Getty Images Photo byThomas Gannam/WireImage Image: Getty Images Photo byThomas Gannam/WireImage

Once again, marriage speculation between the two was put on ice years ago, this time by Nelly. Speaking to RapUp TV in 2010, he explained, “What people don’t understand is that I think you really have to be friends first, that’s the thing. It’s not about how long it takes, there’s no time limit on this. I’m not a person who wants to be married more than once, I’m not a person who wants to be in a relationship more than once. You’re dying if you leave me.”

The Break-Up

Image: Getty Images Photo by Rick Diamond/Getty Images Image: Getty Images Photo by Rick Diamond/Getty Images

In 2013, ten years after they met, rumors of their breakup began to circulate. From 2013 to 2014, the two played it coy in the press as the rumors continued to surface, with Ashanti even telling Hot 97 in 2014, “It’s a very small industry. Are we gonna see each other? Yeah… I’m not bitter,” before continuing to say a relationship is like “ping-pong.”

Ashanti officially confirmed the split on The Meredith Viera Show in 2015, finally letting the public in a bit more on their relationship. “I’ve been betrayed,” she explained. “You just have to grow. You have to grow up. You have to accept responsibility for the things that you do. I’m not a big fan of people being cowards.”

A Verzuz Reunion

Image: Getty Images Photo by Johnny Nunez/WireImage Image: Getty Images Photo by Johnny Nunez/WireImage

After almost 10 years since rumors of their split hit the press, Ashanti and Nelly reunited, unexpectedly hitting the stage together for Ja Rule and Fat Joe’s Verzuz battle in 2021. “Now look, this is the crazy part: I had no idea he was gonna be there,” Ashanti revealed on Instagram Live after the event. “I haven’t seen him or spoken to him since we broke up. Six years or something? So, I didn’t know what to expect.” During the performance, Nelly went over to Ashanti and embraced her, a moment that we now realize was the beginning of the a new chapter in their story.

They Reach a ‘Better Place’

Image: Getty Images Photo by: Charles Sykes/Bravo via Getty Images Image: Getty Images Photo by: Charles Sykes/Bravo via Getty Images

In the year following the performance, the two appeared together once again, performing their “Body On Me” song for Power 98.3 and 96.1’s Under the Mistletoe concert in 2022. Later that year, Ashanti told Andy Cohen that they were in a “better place” and “cool now.”

Spotted

Image: Getty Images Photo by Paras Griffin/Getty Images Image: Getty Images Photo by Paras Griffin/Getty Images

Then came the reconciliation rumors, fueled by the two getting spotted around town. The two were first seen in Vegas in the spring of 2023, looking “cozy” per People, before officially hitting their first red carpet together in years just a few months later.

Another Go

Image: Getty Images Photo by Paras Griffin/Getty Images Image: Getty Images Photo by Paras Griffin/Getty Images

In September of 2023, the two officially confirmed their rekindled romance. “I think it surprised both of us,” Nelly revealed on “Boss Moves with Rasheeda.” “It wasn’t anything that was planned.”

Wedding Bells for Nelly and Ashanti

Image: Getty Images Photo by Prince Williams/WireImage Image: Getty Images Photo by Prince Williams/WireImage

The two rang in the new year with their love in 2024, getting married on Dec. 27th 2023. While the news was not confirmed until months later, the two were able to privately celebrate their love for each other, a truly one-of-a-kind love story almost exactly 20 years in the making.

Ashanti Reveals Pregnancy

Image: Getty Images Photo by Tommaso Boddi/FilmMagic Image: Getty Images Photo by Tommaso Boddi/FilmMagic

Ashanti announced her pregnancy and engagement to Nelly in April of 2024 to Essence. “This new year of my life is such a blessing full of love, hope, and anticipation,” she told the outlet at the time. “Motherhood is something that I have looked forward to, and sharing this with my family, fiancé, and loyal fans, who have been so supportive of my career, is an amazing experience.” Court documents later confirmed that Nelly had already been her legal husband at the time of the announcement.

Ashanti and Nelly Welcome Baby

Image: Getty Images Photo by ROBERTO SCHMIDT/AFP via Getty Images Image: Getty Images Photo by ROBERTO SCHMIDT/AFP via Getty Images

Ashanti and Nelly welcomed their first child, Kareem Kenkaide Haynes, in July of 2024, as we reported. She wrote on her Instagram at the time, “Funny how life’s plans aren’t…always on time.. lol. I’ve been waiting to be a mom for a long time now but nothing could prepare me for EVERYTHING motherhood brings!”

Straight From The Root

Sign up for our free daily newsletter.

Latest from The Root

Black Directors Who Should Have Oscars, But Don't

Black Directors Who Should Have Oscars, But Don’t

As Ryan Coogler could make history at the 2026 Oscars, let’s look back at Black directors whose films deserved more recognition than they got! …
Why Everybody is Suddenly Giving Black Women Their Much-Deserved Flowers!

Why Everybody is Suddenly Giving Black Women Their Much-Deserved Flowers!

From Sterling K. Brown to white folks on TikTok, Black women are finally receiving their flowers for being the backbone of society— and we love to see it …
Black Americans Respond to Possible Boots on the Ground as Iran Conflict Rages Forward

Black Americans Respond to Possible Boots on the Ground as Iran Conflict Rages Forward

Black folks woke up on the last day of Black History Month to military strikes in Iran. Now, they’re voicing frustrations as questions about ground troops arise …
Former Black Inmate Makes History as First Ever in U.S. to Buy a Prison Facility

Former Black Inmate Makes History as First Ever in U.S. to Buy a Prison Facility

Kerwin Pittman becomes the first formerly incarcerated Black man to buy a U.S. prison, transforming a site of confinement into a reentry campus …
Full Timeline of Dwight Howard and Amy Luciani's Rocky 14-Month Marriage Now Headed to Divorce

Full Timeline of Dwight Howard and Amy Luciani’s Rocky 14-Month Marriage Now Headed to Divorce

Folks online who followed Dwight Howard and Amy Luciani’s marriage say its been rocky early on before Howard filed for divorce. Here’s the full rundown …
NBA Shuts Down Atlanta Hawks' 'Magic City Monday' Promotion, Black Twitter Responds

NBA Shuts Down Atlanta Hawks’ ‘Magic City Monday’ Promotion, Black Twitter Responds

The NBA canceled the Atlanta Hawks’ collab with the popular strip club after growing backlash …
Lil Baby is Trying to Save His Atlanta Neighborhood, One Property at a Time

Lil Baby is Trying to Save His Atlanta Neighborhood, One Property at a Time

After gentrification pushed thousands of Black folks out of historic Atlanta neighborhoods, rapper Lil Baby returns to his stomping grounds with a new business plan …
Smoothie King Fired Staff Who Refused MAGA Couple Service— But Here’s the Ironic Double Standard Everyone is Missing

Smoothie King Fired Staff Who Refused MAGA Couple Service— But Here’s the Ironic Double Standard Everyone is Missing

Two Michigan Smoothie King workers were canned after refusing service to pro-Trump customers, meanwhile, Black folks are calling out a double standard …
Howard University Athletes Take a Stand Against New Kneeling Policy for the National Anthem

Howard University Athletes Take a Stand Against New Kneeling Policy for the National Anthem

Since 2020, athletes at Howard University have kneeled to protest the national anthem. Now, a new policy banning kneeling is causing trouble …
Why The New Yorker's Drawing of Wunmi Mosaku Has Fans Furious 

Why The New Yorker’s Drawing of Wunmi Mosaku Has Fans Furious 

‘Sinners’ star Wunmi Mosaku has been riding high off her first Oscar nomination, but one drawing didn’t reflect that and fans are calling it out! …
Locksmith Refuses Service to Black Chick-fil-A Owner – Then Gets Hit With a Reality Check

Locksmith Refuses Service to Black Chick-fil-A Owner – Then Gets Hit With a Reality Check

A Black Chick-fil-A franchise owner went viral after recalling how a locksmith refused to help her because he didn’t believe she was the owner …
How One Black Woman is Saying No to Work and Yes to Unapologetic Rest

How One Black Woman is Saying No to Work and Yes to Unapologetic Rest

After being laid off in 2025, Brandy Walker is launching a one-year sabbatical for all Black women to join! …
You Won't Believe Why Stephen A. Smith Is Not Running For President in 2028

You Won’t Believe Why Stephen A. Smith Is Not Running For President in 2028

The host of ESPN’s “First Take” has been open about possibly running for the highest office in the nation …
Terrence Howard Just Said The Quiet Part Out Loud About Black Boys and Sexual Abuse

Terrence Howard Just Said The Quiet Part Out Loud About Black Boys and Sexual Abuse

Terrence Howard’s painful story exposes a truth we rarely confront. Black boys are vulnerable to abuse but are almost never treated like victims …
Strange New Details Emerge About Suspect in Rihanna Home Shooting

Strange New Details Emerge About Suspect in Rihanna Home Shooting

After shots were shockingly fired at Rihanna’s home on Sunday, the singer and the public finally have some good news …
Tony! Toni! Toné! Drama: Founder's Family Fights Over Disinheritance

Tony! Toni! Toné! Drama: Founder’s Family Fights Over Disinheritance

D’Wayne Wiggins passed away in March 2025 after a year-long battle with bladder cancer …
Alabama Is Set to Execute A Black Man Who Didn't Kill Anyone

Alabama Is Set to Execute A Black Man Who Didn’t Kill Anyone

Three decades after being sentenced for a murder he didn’t even witness, Sonny Burton is now only days away from his scheduled execution …
Beyond Damson Idris:Lori Harvey's Star-Studded Dating Life

Beyond Damson Idris:Lori Harvey’s Star-Studded Dating Life

With Lori Harvey and her ex-boo Damson Idris back in headlines, let’s take a look at the socialite and budding actress’ dating history! …
Pastor Seen Shoving Elderly Woman Down Church Steps on Camera, Speaks out

Pastor Seen Shoving Elderly Woman Down Church Steps on Camera, Speaks out

A California pastor accused of pushing a church elder down a short flight of cement steps and out a metal gate just shared his side of the story …
How Trump's White Female Voters Got Played

How Trump’s White Female Voters Got Played

Opinion: White women thought they were winning under Trump. They did not realize they were just being used …