Damon Young writes:
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For years people have written, spoken, and even created art about the fact that African-American men are burdened with a suffocatinglyย rigid definition of who and what a man is supposed be. Itโs also common to blame this on a combination of history, socialization, and sexual expectation. Basically, black men are the way we are because society in generalโand black womenย specificallyโexpect us to be that way.
But, to be perfectly honest, Iโm not sure how valid this is today.ย Yes, itโs true that there have been some very majorย historicalย influences on the way weโre supposed to be, and yes itโs still somewhat true that black men who fall outside of the hyper-hetero ideal might be sexually shunned in a way that other races/cultures of American men may not have to deal with, but I wonder how much of this is self-induced.ย
I think we (Black men) do it to ourselves more than anyone else does it to us. I think weโve grown comfortable inside the limitations. I think many of our problems in regards to being expected to be hyper-hetero are completely psychosomatic. I think we have a bit more leeway to be human than we want to believe, and I think thereโs a bit of a mental and emotional safety net with not fighting against this expectation, as any crude, sexist, homophobic, racist, and just generally unprogressive act could be blamed on socialization. It may not quite be learned helplessness, but it isnโt far from it.
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Very Smart Brothas is a culture blog founded by and featuring Damon Young (aka \"The Champ\") and Panama Jackson.ย
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