bassey-ikpi
Bassey Ikpi
bassey-ikpi
American-Nigerian, ex-poet, current writer, constant mental health advocate (The Siwe Project and No Shame Day), underachieving overachiever and memoir procrastinator (Harper Perennial 2019).
Feb 8 2018
11

I couldn’t agree more. I think Rich saw what he wanted to see. These guys seem to really be improving their protégés’ self esteem. People shouldn’t fault that.

Jan 16 2018
121

There some parts to the story that show these two people were on two completely different wavelengths and had a lot of misunderstandings. At one point, she sits on the floor in front of him and says she wanted him to play with her hair. She says he thought she wanted to reciprocate oral sex after he already performed Read more

Jan 15 2018
10

Here’s an example... he used the phrase “witch hunt”... and despite all the people responding to him insultingly covering what the witch hunts were... they missed the point entirely. As a history major who specialized in medieval europe and did his senior thesis on witchcraft I can tell you for sure... yes women were Read more

Jan 15 2018
15

This is all on point. I resisted watching because I’m tired of shows celebrating assholes and I didn’t want another one. But it’s pretty clear from the beginning that it’s not that at all—you’re going on a journey with this woman that’s doing the best she can with some pretty heavy baggage. It encourages so much Read more

Jan 15 2018
30

Praise hands to all of this. I just converted my husband to it and I’m now rewatching the first season. I started the show feeling exactly the way you described, frankly I’d binged everything else already and was desperate. It’s not just the best handling of mental health I’ve seen, it’s some of the best writing on TV Read more

Jan 15 2018
25

I have been forcing friends to watch this show since I discovered it last year. Converted a solid 7 so far. This is a beautiful explanation for what makes it so good. And I totally agree about the Lena Dunham thing.
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Sep 5 2017
4

Bassey, your writing is so beautiful and insightful. You truly have a gift for storytelling, and I don’t think that is something that could ever be learned in a class. I cannot wait to get my hands on your memoir! Fall 2018 seems too far away, but I guess I can always enjoy what you post here until then. (And that is Read more

Sep 5 2017
4

Dancing is life. Letting the music dictate the movement, feeling the release. The first time I went dancing with my husband (EDM) he freaked out because I was sweating like my body was aiming for immediate dehydration. He kept asking if I was okay. I was. I just dance hard and with dedication. Read more

Jul 14 2017
31

Baassseeyyy! How do you know?! My depression has made it very hard for me to care for my long, kinky-curly hair as well. I have to leave the house for work every day. But the bun from 2 or 3 weeks ago was looking... bad. Read more