There she was: a blond woman with big blue eyes, hair cornrowed tight, with her caramel-colored black child sitting in the back seat. The question, on a mutual friend’s Facebook post, asked if voters were happy with their decision to elect Donald Trump president. The white woman responded that she was satisfied with the job Trump was doing, and that she supported him because he was “her president.”
Because this was publicly shared on Facebook, and seeing as how I’m a card-carrying, registered asshole, I boldly asked how she could support someone who openly demonized and marginalized people of color, including her son. Megan (yes, that’s her name, because—isn’t it always?) didn’t have any concrete response, and—according to her—she didn’t owe anyone an explanation as to why she made decisions that would adversely affect her children and children who look like them. She did, however, wonder why she was being called a racist because she voted for Trump. Now, I had not called her that, but, I mean, hey, if the Ugg fits.
She finished by accusing me of jealousy. I must be envious—she said—because she lies down next to a black Republican every night and takes black dick, and she was better off than the black women commenting.
She apparently thought that in all of my black femme desperation, I must be jealous of Great Value versions of black women who place themselves on a pedestal for snagging black men who don’t want to associate with black people. This woman believes that her affinity for black men means that she cannot be racist.
Sadly, CyberBecky and her warped ideology are not alone. There are many people who use their interracial relationships, both past and present, to prove that they can’t be racist. There are parents of biracial children who are blind to racism because they believe that bearing half-black children means that they cured racism.
News flash: Sex with a black man doesn’t earn you a get-out-of-racism-free card.
If so much of some black men’s love for white women is built firmly on their subconscious hatred or disregard for black women, how could that toxic mentality not be perpetuated in their relationships and, therefore, in their homes? How often do we see white women showing support for black penis but not black lives?
Take, for instance, Rachel Bush, the white Instagram model, Trump supporter and fiancee of Buffalo Bills player Jordan Poyer. Bush stated that her fiance would not be taking a knee because Colin Kaepernick’s protest creates “more division” and she believes the protests are “wrong.”
Rachel Bush has an interracial child, but to the rest of the world, including Donald Trump and police officers, she has a black child.
Until very recently, biracial or mixed children were considered black, and even today, their proximity to whiteness won’t protect their blackness from police brutality, from being passed over for jobs, from being denied by loan officers or from being discriminated against by teachers, especially like the ones who called their “friend” a nigger when they were in the eighth grade.
In middle school, I was called “Ni-ig-ger” (Budweiser-frog-style) by two so-called friends. One became a teacher in a poor black school in order to wipe out her student loan debt, and the other spent at least a good half of her sexual history (high school included) consuming dark meat. Even though this happened when we were young, I highly doubt that their racism just vanished into thin air or was just a phase they simply grew out of.
Biracial or mixed children’s proximity to whiteness is just that—proximity. Whiteness is just that—whiteness. If someone has children with a black person without understanding the important nuances of race in America, he or she is not exhibiting a love-conquers-all, colorblind mentality; he or she is being willfully ignorant of the fact that black people are being treated differently.
We know that the number of black men who date white women far exceeds the number of black women who date white men. Nor are black women exalted by society the way white women are. In the few interracial relationships that I’ve seen with black women and white men, the black women are usually still remarkably black as fuck, and they still defend all black people (with a few exceptions).
And we can’t ignore the inherent sexual stereotypes that have marred black people for centuries. Black men and women have been seen as sexual beasts since we arrived in this country. Black men with their oversized penises, black women with their oversized breasts and asses, and both with their oversized sexual appetite became a sick fetish meant only for white pleasure.
When people say they can’t be racist because they have a black child, I laugh, as if the insertion of black penis into white vagina or white penis into black vagina is some magical act that wipes you clean of all your racism. As if there isn’t porn specifically dedicated to the subjugation of black women by white men. As if white demure housewives being beasted by a group of sex-crazed black men aren’t trending on YouPorn. As if slave owners and their sympathizers didn’t have children by black women while simultaneously writing laws that kept slavery legal and/or otherwise contributing to the subjugation of black people (Thomas Jefferson and Strom Thurmond, just to name a few).
There’s a clip of Kim Kardashian, the model for black-dick-taking excellence, trying to find the perfect stroller to go with her not-yet-born baby’s skin tone. More recently, she has spoken out about forgiving Jeffree Star, a makeup artist who has reportedly made several racist remarks. She has exclusively dated black men. But Kim K. does very little to use the mouth that she has wrapped around black penises to be vocal about black issues.
She emulates and surrounds herself with black women. She made a fortune from being the bottom-shelf version of us, but has only spoken out once about black issues, you know ... because of the kids.
White parents, you’re going to have a love for your children that no one else has or can replicate, so it’s obvious that you will love their little bodies despite the fact that they’re black, but just because you fuck black people doesn’t mean you fuck with black people.
P.S.: Comb that baby’s hair!