Your Take: Reflections on Dr. Dorothy Height
When I first met her, I was struggling to find my place in the civil rights movement as a black lesbian. How the civil rights icon helped me feel comfortable in my own skin.
The first time I met Dorothy Height, who was laid to rest this week, I was 29, a member of the Political Congress of Black Women, and struggling to find my place in the civil rights movement as a black lesbian.
It seemed, back then, that I had an awful choice to make: I could ignore my sexual orientation and remain active with the civil rights movement, or I could come out and forget about following those aspirations. I felt as though the African-American civil rights community would never accept an out black Lesbian. But then again, I hadn't talked to Dorothy Height.
I had read about Dr. Height and was simply in awe. Dorothy Height had been mentored by Mary McLeod Bethune and in the '60s, had organized "Wednesdays in Mississippi" which brought together black and white women from the North and South to create a dialogue of understanding. I knew that she regularly advised first lady Eleanor Roosevelt and encouraged appointments of African-American women during President Lyndon B. Johnson's term.
One day, while ushering at an event given by the Political Congress of Black Women, I got to meet her.
Far from being tongue-tied, I had a million questions beginning with, "What can I do to help the world like you have done?" Dr. Height politely asked my name and then said, "Donna, just be yourself and get involved wherever you feel comfortable." It was transformative. I replayed that message over and over for years: "Be yourself, do whatever feels comfortable."
Fast forward eight years. By then, I had worked on campaigns; I had volunteered with the Young Democrats of America; I had come out of the closet and was now working with the Human Rights Campaign (HRC), the nation's largest LGBT advocacy organization, on outreach to people of color.
At HRC, where everything came together, my work included working with the Leadership Conference on Civil Rights (LCCR) where HRC sits on the executive committee. At the time, Dorothy Height chaired the board, and she was very welcoming, even giving our executive director the LCCR Hubert Humphrey Award for work on social justice issues.
In 2001, I traveled with the LCCR to the United Nations' World Conference Against Racism in South Africa. I was asked to represent the LGBT community in the coalition. I remember my first coalition meeting where Dr. Height asked my opinion about the goals of the sexual-orientation caucus. I hesitated, thinking she must be talking to someone else until I was nudged and told, "Dr. Height is addressing you!" I quickly came to my senses and made my suggestions, all the while feeling a tad unprepared.