Your Take: Are All Abortions Equal?
Roland C. Warren, president of the National Fatherhood Initiative, talks back to The Root about ''financial abortions.''
Proponents of the financial abortion wrongly reduce child rearing to merely a financial construct. Research (and common sense) asserts strongly that kids need more than financial support to have the best chance to thrive in life. In terms of fathers, they need ones that provide for them, nurture them and guide them. President Barack Obama aptly put it like this:
''I came to understand that the hole a man leaves when he abandons his responsibility to his children is one that no government can fill. We can do everything possible to provide good jobs and good schools and safe streets for our kids, but it will never be enough to fully make up the difference.''
I could not agree more. I believe that a child has a ''hole in his soul'' in the shape of his dad, and when a father is unable or unwilling to fill that hole, it can leave a wound that is not easily healed. As someone, like the president, who grew up without my father, I know firsthand the impact of a father's absence -- financially and emotionally. And I have spoken to countless other wounded souls in my travels.
The notion of financial abortion is not empowering for men; rather, it's degrading and insulting because it's based on the premise that men don't have equal control or choices like women do when it comes to sex. It presumes that a man is no different than a cocker spaniel -- just driven by urges and instincts. But men have an equal choice. They can choose not to have sex.
Look, actions have consequences, and although a person can choose his actions, he cannot choose the consequences of his actions. When it comes to sex, one of the consequences can be a child. So if a guy wants to keep his wallet closed, I suggest that he keep his zipper closed, too.
Roland C. Warren is president of the National Fatherhood Initiative.