Standards. Everyone should have them, right? Apparently not if you're a black woman. By now, surely, you've seen or heard about the "Black Marriage Negotiations" video, featuring a black businesswoman negotiating her relationship terms with a black businessman in a boardroom. This particular video, one in a series of online animated clips satirizing black relationships, has gone viral and drawn quite a bit of outcry.

In the video, a monotone-voiced animated black woman runs down her list of what she wants from a man. Of course, this woman comes off as unreasonable, unrealistic and -- here comes my favorite adjective irresponsibly attached to black women -- crazy. When you watch this video, it may seem funny at first. But after it sinks in that this is really how many black men and others see black women, it may infuriate and even hurt you, especially if you are a single black woman.

As a single black woman, let me stress that there is nothing wrong with us, despite what media reports suggest. Yes, 42 percent of us have never married. But it's not because all of us are angry or bitter or hard to get along with or too demanding or wear too much weave or don't work out or talk and laugh too loud. We are single because there is a shortage of single, straight black men of quality who want to get married to us. And we, as a group, are still slower to marry outside of our race. Period.