New Interracial-Dating Book Hurts More Than It Helps
Why you don't need an instruction manual to tell you how to date outside your race.
Sure, making an effort not to be completely clueless about someone's family life and culture can go a long way. But saying "most Asians are very label and brand conscious" or "many blacks have a significant level of distrust of others, especially 'whitey,' " as Davies does, simply encourages us to see a person solely as a member of a particular race and make judgments based around that fact.
I'm not trying to claim that I'm the perfect white girl, that I know everything there is to know about dating someone of a different race. But what I do know is that if you approach another person as a fetish object to be discovered, you're doing both yourself and that person a disservice. There is a lot to be said about interracial dating and how it plays out in real people's lives, but I Got the Fever, though purporting to break down stereotypes, only perpetuates them.
Rachel Kramer Bussel is a New York-based author, editor, blogger and event organizer. She writes about sex, dating, pop culture and books for a variety of publications. She is the editor of more than 30 anthologies. Visit her at rachelkramerbussel.com.