Reclaiming Civility

President Obama was right when he said that Americans must embrace civility again. If you're not sure what that means, perhaps you're part of the problem.


When President Obama spoke at a White House press conference the day after the midterm elections, among his most salient points was his statement that our country must embrace civility again. No truer words could have been spoken. We witnessed a veritable slugfest among candidates leading up to Election Day, everything from a plethora of mean-spirited advertising to a man stomping on a woman’s face outside a Rand Paul rally. Not to mention the ever-curious Sarah Palin, who straight out referred to one CBS affiliate’s staff as “corrupt bastards.”

Rude words and deeds are not limited to politicians. It’s no longer shocking to see someone rush by an old person attempting to cross the street or push someone out of the way to get onto a crowded subway. Oh yeah, what about the person who seems to be screaming her personal business into her cell phone while she’s sitting next to you on the bus?

Or the guard I saw at my election polling station who was spewing expletives as people walked in to vote, a man who is sadly no different from the countless people who bat about profanities while standing within earshot of children? Or the banquet hall filled with black-tie guests who neglect to shut up when someone is speaking at the dais or performing for them?

How did it come to this? I believe that the balance between technology and humanity is askew. Our use of technology has helped to insulate us from others, along with the consequences of our actions toward them. Many people do not directly interact the way they did even 10 years ago, although they are surrounded by others.

If you stand still and look around Almost Anywhere USA, you are bound to see people talking on cell phones (even while crossing the street), texting (while with a group of friends), typing into a computer (while eating dinner with the family) or playing electronic games (while waiting for a meal at a restaurant). In all cases they are distracted by technology when they are supposed to be having one-on-one contact with other people.

Times have changed. Somehow the anonymity that our cultural embrace of technology offers has also emboldened many of us to speak our minds uncensored. For example, years ago, if you wanted to express your opinion about a newspaper story you had to write a letter, put it in the mail and see if it would be selected as a letter to the editor. Today anyone can anonymously react online to other people’s words, in the moment. And as I have experienced right here on The Root, some of the commentary can be vile to a degree that I believe would be highly unlikely if the person had to reveal his or her identity.

And that’s not all. Thanks to the decline of our economy, people are allowing their worst behavior to come out. This happens when people are worried that there is not enough to go around and desperation sets in. Darwinism overtakes them, and they decide, even if it’s an unconscious decision, that they will get theirs — no matter what.