#BaeWatch: It’s Time to Look for Love! Here Are 14 Ways to Find It This Valentine’s Day

You don’t have to be alone, but you have to be willing to put in the work.

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So, you’re alone this Valentine’s Day—again. Join the club. But what are you doing about it?

If “single” isn’t your preferred relationship status, it’s time to stop hoping that love happens and make some changes—and some new connections. Here are 14 ways you can take back Valentine’s Day and take control of your love life.

1. Apply yourself.

OK, so you’re a romantic who still can’t get with the whole “lust at first swipe” culture that seems to have overtaken dating these days. I get it: It’s superficial, impersonal and … how’s that working for you? Hate to break it to you, but one of the reasons you’re not locking eyes with someone across a crowded room is that everyone else has their eyes on their phones—and all the attractive prospects online. It may be impersonal, but it’s also efficient. More importantly, it’s how people are meeting these days.

Got specific tastes? I promise: There’s an app for that. So, stop making excuses and make a profile—if only for the practice.

2. Fly solo.

Sure, you hang with the ultimate power clique. But could they be scaring off prospects? There’s nothing wrong with having wingmen or women. But if they keep you too distracted to flirt—or, worse yet, distract attention from you—they may be more harm than help. You’re a grown-up; you don’t need a babysitter to dine alone at the bar. If you need company, bring a book. Believe it or not, it can be a great conversation starter.

3. Ask for assistance.

Chances are, someone in your crew is dying to play matchmaker. Let them work their magic for you! If you’ve exhausted your social network, it may be time to tap into someone else’s—especially if it’s someone you know and trust. Sometimes, all that’s needed is a fresh pair of eyes to introduce you to a world of fresh new prospects. Who knows? The love of your life may only be a few degrees of separation away.

4. C’mon in my kitchen.