No, Ayesha Curry Did Not Slut-Shame Women With Her Tweets

She Matters: She said she likes to keep it “classy” and saves showing her “good stuff” for her husband. What exactly is the problem?

Golden State Warriors guard Stephen Curry and his wife, Ayesha
Golden State Warriors guard Stephen Curry and his wife, Ayesha Thearon W. Henderson/Getty Images

I’ve been following the drama over Ayesha Curry’s tweets from this past weekend, in which she casually chatted about her preference for wearing “classy” clothes instead of more revealing, “trendy” wears.

I’ve been throwing the illest side eye at responses in editorials, on social media and even among my friends as I read about how Mrs. Chef Curry was wrong to “say” what she did, how she’s slut-shaming women, how she’s being pompous.

Huh?

I’ve been trying to figure out what she said that was wrong here. I’ve read and reread Curry’s tweets, actively looking for the problematic part that’s got so many people riled up. And for the life of me, I can’t find it.

She didn’t tell other women what they should or should not wear. There are no Hotep respectability politics telling women that if they cover up, they’ll get what she has: a cute, famous, millionaire husband and even cuter babies. She said she likes to keep it “classy” and saves showing her “good stuff” for her husband, Stephen Curry. OK. What exactly is the problem?

There’s no one way for a woman—whether she’s married, single, a mother or child-free—to dress, or course. But why are so many people acting as if it’s wrong for a woman not to put her whole body on display? Is the issue that Curry’s tweets imply that a woman who shows off her “good stuff” isn’t classy? Is that it? And people feel a way about being told they aren’t classy?

Look, I support women wearing—or not wearing—whatever they want. Your body equals your choice. If being half-naked is your brand of empowerment, do you. But are we really trying to argue that dressing with your ass and breasts out should be called “classy,” too? Really?

Curry didn’t even use the actual antonym of “classy,” which is along the lines of “trashy,” which would be totally offensive to say. She called wearing less clothes “trendy,” a cutesy word that isn’t inherently negative. “Trendy” is also pretty accurate, is it not? Earlier this year, E! Online declared 2015 the “age of the naked dress” and ran a poll asking readers to vote on their favorite naked dress of the night at the Met Gala, of all places. That’s how many women showed up in them. So where is Curry’s insult here?

My esteemed colleague Diana Ozemebhoya Eromosele thought that Curry’s tweets were evidence that she was “on her high horse” and her tweets had something to do with her marital status and being a mother.

Uh, did I miss a tweet? Because in the three I saw, Curry didn’t mention her children and just barely referenced her husband. There were no “Well, I’m married with kids, so I know best” airs about what she wrote, just what she liked. Period. Eromosele went further to suggest that Curry was insinuating that “women who dress more revealingly are showing off their ‘good stuff’ for people who don’t matter.”

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