Sidibe’s success is sometimes jarring for some people to take in. There’s this reigning idea that fat somehow equals lazy or incompetent or self-loathing. Being fat is supposed to block blessings and keep folks from achieving their dreams. And Sidibe’s sizable body just doesn’t jibe with what winning is “supposed to” look like, especially to people who are losing—and that’s what you are doing if you are one of the people typing mean things about her on your laptop or cellphone while she is being photographed at an event you will never attend.
Get over it. Sidibe already has.
Demetria L. Lucas is a contributing editor at The Root, a life coach and the author of the upcoming book Don’t Waste Your Pretty: The Go-to Guide for Making Smarter Decisions in Life & Love.