Beyoncé Is a Grown Woman and Can Do What She Wants

She Matters: The controversy over her Grammy performance with husband Jay Z is completely overblown.

Beyoncé and Jay Z performing "Drunk in Love" at the Grammys Jan. 26, 2013
Beyoncé and Jay Z performing "Drunk in Love" at the Grammys Jan. 26, 2013 YouTube

That Tina Turner is supposed to be one of Beyoncé’s idols makes this even worse …  I’m disappointed in Beyoncé. I wish in this moment she could have been more Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie and less “Cater 2 U.”

We’ve all noticed that Beyoncé is in her rebellious stage. Most artists who come of age in the spotlight go through it—see Justin Bieber, Miley Cyrus and Amanda Bynes for recent examples. Beyoncé is a late bloomer in this respect. She has habitually line-stepped with coy sexuality, and p-popped and writhed in very little clothing. But this time out she’s gone full-fledged YOLO, singing about “surfboarding” with her husband, singing about performing oral sex on him in the car (with a driver half watching, no less) and flashing her tush in a thong in videos and onstage. Courting the controversy of her husband’s “eat the cake” line was a given for the new Beyoncé (who seems an awful lot like the current Rihanna).

Would it have been nice if Beyoncé had bowed down to her critics? I would have been bored. I like that finally I don’t know what to expect from Beyoncé. I’ll take this new controversial image any day over the cookie-cutter one she’s shown us for years.

Demetria L. Lucas is a contributing editor at The Root, a life coach and the author of A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life and the upcoming Don’t Waste Your Pretty: The Go-to Guide for Making Smarter Decisions in Life & Love. Follow her on Twitter.