Yes, Interracial Couples Can Handle ’12 Years a Slave’

Race Manners: Go ahead, invite 'em: They probably figured out how to deal -- or not deal -- with America's racial history long before the film came out. 

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But the bottom line is, if they agree to see this movie, you can bet they already have an agreement — spoken or not — to process it in one of these ways.  

And what if they can’t? What if your brother thinks it’s the most important movie of the decade and his girlfriend thinks it’s a snooze? Worse, if they can’t look at each other the same way afterward? That’s unlikely. But if it happens, they’ll have this film about America’s past to thank for the reality check that they don’t see eye to eye, and their relationship just might be history, too.

The Root’s staff writer, Jenée Desmond-Harris, covers the intersection of race with news, politics and culture. She wants to talk about the complicated ways in which ethnicity, color and identity arise in your personal life — and provide perspective on the ethics and etiquette surrounding race in a changing America. Follow her on Twitter.

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