Should I Let My Own Mr. Big Back in My Life?

Ask Demetria: Women in the real world can't date as if they're in romantic comedies.

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A final thought on "Big" types. This back-and-forth game of emotional highs and lows will continue as long as you allow it to. If you want to end this tug of war -- which I'm not sure you do -- you're going to have to be the one to let go of the rope. Start by declining his invitation and asking him to give you a call when/if he's ever single and can offer you a commitment. Unfortunately, if he reminds you of "Big," that's not likely to happen.

Demetria L. Lucas is a contributing editor to The Root, a life coach and the author of A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life. She answers your dating and relationship questions on The Root each week. Feel free to ask anything at

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