Also, if you have the disposable income and vacation time, offer to fly over for a weekend visit so that you can spend time together and have actual, real sex, which, for many people, would trump phone calls and tapes any day. Take a different set of sexual goodies with you to heighten the experience.
Demetria L. Lucas is a contributing editor at The Root, a life coach and the author of A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life. She answers your dating and relationship questions on The Root each week. Feel free to ask anything at firstname.lastname@example.org.