I Don’t Have Any White Friends. So What?

She Matters: Who you hang with should be based on who has your back, not what race they are.

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The suggestion — in essence, “tokenism,” whether it’s encouraging black people to have white friends or white people to pick up nonwhite friends just to say they have some — is laughable. People — black, white, brown and all other colors — should select their friends based on who they mesh with, period. I don’t want any token friends, and I certainly don’t want to be the token black friend for anybody else.

Demetria L. Lucas is a contributing editor at The Root, a life coach and the author of A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life. Follow her on Twitter.