My Lady Has Issues With My Biracial Son

Ask Demetria: Her reaction to your mixed-race child tells you all you need to know about her.

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Since you clearly don’t want to break up with her, let’s try giving her one last chance. Ask your girlfriend point-blank if she will accept your half-black child. If the answer is no, she has to go. As a responsible co-parent, you must act in the best interest of your boy, and keeping a girlfriend who has a problem with the child’s race is not in his best interest or yours.

If she is willing to accept your son, then she needs to actively work on her issues with race, and I prefer that she do so with the help of a professional. By all means, keep her away from your child until she can handle his biracial identity.

Good luck!

Demetria L. Lucas is a contributing editor to The Root, a life coach and the author of A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life. She answers your dating and relationship questions on The Root each week. Feel free to ask anything at