Ever Have a ‘Waiting to Exhale’ Moment?

Ask Demetria: It's better to fantasize about revenge than to actually do something you'll regret later.

Angela Bassett as Bernadine in Waiting to Exhale (Screengrab from the film)

Unfortunately, too many people, especially women, think it is. A British survey found that women are more likely to seek revenge for infidelity, and 10 percent of female respondents said they would target their partner’s car. Of those, 22- to 25-year-olds were most likely to smash a car windshield, while 19- to 21-year-olds said they would damage the car’s paint job.

Once again, this is not OK. There are countless stories of women who pull these made-for-TV stunts and then get arrested for them. Earlier this year, an Iowa woman was arrested and charged with second-degree criminal mischief after she jumped on the hood of her ex-boyfriend’s car and used a log to break the windshield. She got upset when she called his cellphone and a new woman answered.

In 2012 a New York City police sergeant (who was well beyond her 20s) was angry with her boyfriend and keyed his Honda Accord. She made headlines when she was charged with criminal mischief and aggravated harassment. In 2011 an Arizona woman was arrested and charged with aggravated assault and criminal damage after she used a dog leash to bash out the front and back windows of her boyfriend’s car.

If you’ve considered trying this yourself, reconsider. Learn from these women’s mistakes, and instead of causing drama and destruction, just watch it play out on TV.

Demetria L. Lucas is a contributing editor at The Root, a life coach and the author of A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life. Follow her on Twitter.