Who Cares If Women Are the Breadwinners?

She Matters: Fortunately, the recent flare-up over a new study won't slow down the progress.

Also, salaries ebb and flow. Everyone’s goal is to increase his or her salary, but in the current culture, in which people move from job to job and layoffs seem imminent, sometimes you’re up and sometimes you’re down. The same applies to the salary of your (potential) spouse. And since we’re talking about families, why should it matter who earns more of the clichéd bacon, especially when it’s collectively going to the same household and will be used for the betterment of that family?

The only problem here is some men’s egos. It doesn’t make a man any less of one if he’s not outearning his partner. And contrary to paranoid belief, the rise of women who provide the primary income doesn’t mean that women en masse are going to turn around and belittle the lesser financial contributions of men, as has been done to women for so long. Trust. Women have better things to do, like work — hard — because people are relying on us or we don’t want to rely on someone else.

It’s no secret that most people don’t adapt well to change, and Erickson’s visceral response to the changing “norms” is a great indication. Fortunately for women making strides, his outcry won’t curb the tide of progress.

Demetria L. Lucas is a contributing editor to The Root, a life coach and the author of A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life.