Unhappy? Don’t Act Like Kirk Frost

Ask Demetria: The Love & Hip-Hop husband is an example of how not to act when your marriage is struggling.

The ridiculousness of his thought process and miseducation about basic pregnancy prevention, along with the outrageously bad treatment of his wife — again, of 12 years — led me to believe this was all made-for-TV drama and not worthy of any serious commentary other than outraged live-tweeting of the show. But recently the story went from TV “entertainment” to real life.

The couple has allegedly separated now. Last week Rasheeda called out her husband in an Instagram post, asking him why he hadn’t answered calls from his son, who was waiting on Kirk to be picked up. That weekend, Kirk showed up to an Atlanta event where he held up a T-shirt that read, “Almost Single.” It was a low blow, made more so because his wife and mother-in-law also attended the event.

Earlier this week, Kirk gave an interview to WGCI’s Morning Riot show to discuss his marital woes. When asked if he honestly believed that his wife, who is still pregnant, had cheated on him, he explained, “Not that I know of,” but, he insisted, “You don’t know where that woman’s privates been.” It seems he forgot “that woman” is still his wife, and also that you don’t accuse your wife of being pregnant by another man without some sort of proof or compelling explanation.

Whether this is a storyline for the show, and Kirk’s antics off and on camera are all part of an elaborate script, or this behavior is a reflection of his true self, it’s shameful. Kirk seems to believe that his public and very disrespectful treatment of his wife is “cute” or funny, but really he’s the one who looks so stupid, and he doesn’t even seem to know.

If a man is unhappy in his marriage, there’s a much more graceful way to go his separate way than questioning his pregnant wife’s fidelity — for which he gives no cause — or flaunting his anticipation of the demise of his marriage. At one point, Kirk respected Rasheeda enough to make her his wife. If he wants to move on, he should respect himself, and the children he shares with her, and go forward with decency or, better, public silence.

Demetria L. Lucas is a contributing editor to The Root, a life coach and the author of A Belle in Brooklyn: The Go-to Girl for Advice on Living Your Best Single Life. She answers your dating and relationship questions on The Root each week. Feel free to ask anything at askdemetria@theroot.com.

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